What do you think...Not pet related

**happylabs** · 04-15-2010, 07:10 AM

The woman that my husband left me for back in 2001 is writing a manuscript on how "she and Dan got back together again". I was married to him at the time they met back up again at a college reunion that he did not invite me to go to with him. They had been secretly seeing each other for several months until I accidentally found out about the affair. He wanted to continue being married to me and carry on with her on the side. I told him to make a choice, her or me. He chose her so I told him to leave.

I am completely over the break up and divorce and am very happy, but don't you think she has a lot of nerve to write a book about it?!? What a slap in the face to my two kids who are now 19 and 22.

**Pinot's Mom** · 04-15-2010, 07:32 AM

WOW - that's beyond chutzpah! Hey, if she tells the truth, you can sue her for alienation of affection (I think that's what it's called)! Seriously though, that is BEYOND bad taste. No class (but that was obvious long ago, huh?).

**pomtzu** · 04-15-2010, 07:44 AM

Originally Posted by Pinot's Mom

WOW - that's beyond chutzpah! Hey, if she tells the truth, you can sue her for alienation of affection (I think that's what it's called)! Seriously though, that is BEYOND bad taste. No class (but that was obvious long ago, huh?).

Does she plan on publishing it? Unless she classifies it as "fiction", then she had better carefully choose her words and not have anything unsavory/untruthful to say in reference to you or the kids. You could make it unpleasant for her if she does - but then she would have what's coming to her in that case.

Tacky - tacky - tacky

**moosmom** · 04-15-2010, 07:57 AM

I'd talk to your lawyer about it. I'm so sorry she's doing this and think that if she does finish the manuscript, and if it's TRUE, she is the one that going to look like a skank. I just feel bad for you and your children. That's why I suggested talking to your lawyer.

You're in my prayers, honey.

**Anikaca77** · 04-15-2010, 08:15 AM

I can only offer my prays on this one. I'm in a tough situation about whether to stay or go at the moment myself so I can't really offer advice but my prays are with you.

Melissa

**Taz_Zoee** · 04-15-2010, 09:27 AM

I'm with Donna on this one. Why in the world would someone write a book about how they stole someone's husband?? And like Donna said, if she does tell the truth she is going to look like the bad guy. That's why I would have to believe it will not be the truth, but something to make her look great instead.

Definitely talk to a lawyer or something to find out what grounds you have in this situation.

**pomtzu** · 04-15-2010, 09:59 AM

I really think that involving a lawyer at this point would be jumping the gun. If she publishes it as fiction - then that's all it is. If not, then you would have to read it to know if she says anything that would be derogatory/slanderous, and warrant action on your part. She's within her rights to write and publish a manuscript and there's not much you can do about it, unless it is harmful to you or the kids.
How did you find out about this anyway? Could it be that she's just blowing smoke???

**happylabs** · 04-15-2010, 10:20 AM

Originally Posted by pomtzu

I really think that involving a lawyer at this point would be jumping the gun. If she publishes it as fiction - then that's all it is. If not, then you would have to read it to know if she says anything that would be derogatory/slanderous, and warrant action on your part. She's within her rights to write and publish a manuscript and there's not much you can do about it, unless it is harmful to you or the kids.
How did you find out about this anyway? Could it be that she's just blowing smoke???

Hey ladies. I am not going to go the lawyer route. I really do not know at this point what type of book it will be. I found out about this from a friend of a friend and then my son told me last night at dinner that she has it posted on her Facebook account.

I tried the alienation of affection thing back before our divorce. They do not honor it in my state and my state is also a no-fault divorce state. So, even though I had an expandable file folder of the emails from the two of them back and forth while they were having their affair, it didn't matter.

Like I said, I am way over the break up and divorce, I am very happy, my kids have grown into productive and happy adults and I have moved on. It just sort of irks me that she would have the nerve to write a book. However, a good friend of mine said to just get over it. LOL.

**Catty1** · 04-15-2010, 10:46 AM

LOL. Write your own book - publish the emails and call it the Sequel!

**Prairie Purrs** · 04-15-2010, 11:24 AM

If she publishes it, you could write one heck of a book review on Amazon.

**happylabs** · 04-15-2010, 11:35 AM

Originally Posted by Prairie Purrs

If she publishes it, you could write one heck of a book review on Amazon.

OMG...I LOVE you guys!!!

**Karen** · 04-15-2010, 11:51 AM

Lots of people write books. Even fewer get them published, and the percentage that actually get marketing and distribution is even smaller. I'd not worry about it.