Bisi.cat, you have brought some very interesting ideas into my head! Thanks for the great advice. I am very over-emotional about the entire situation at the moment. Also the fact that my husband is NOT patient with them is making me more tense.

I will try to get hold of those books and read them ASAP!

I have plugged in the Feliway diffuser - does anyone have an idea how long it will take to "kick in"? I have put it in the kitchen, as this is where they spend more of their time, and also where their food is.

I also spoke to another vet today (she is the one who saved Connor when the shelter rescued him - she fixed up his little stumpy tail etc), and she said that if the Feliway doesn't work, we can take them for hormone injections. I've never heard of this before - have any of you tried it????

Thanks to all of you for supporting me through this - you are all great, and I am so grateful for all my friends here at Pet Talk - I don't know how I would cope with this without your help!

(((HUGS))))

Julie