Difficult situation

[sasvermont]

Gosh, such an awful situation. Is she really a friend or someone who is using you from time to time. I would consider saying au revoir (goodbye) to her and keeping the kitty.

It sounds to me that if she did get a new cat, she would again, when convenient for her needs, ask you again, to take care of one of her pets.

She would not be a friend of mine for very long. She sounds like she needs some counselling first, then maybe a good job and a place to live. Pets are way down there on the list of things she needs right now.

Stick to your guns, keep the kitty and tell her to go fish.

[catmandu]

I think that Cat would be far better off in your home as obviously he is not going to get any Vet Care if he goes with this person.
I would simply say no, and stand your ground.

[moosmom]

Cat???? What cat????? *POOF*!!! Get my drift??

[pomtzu]

I think I would have to take a long hard look at my friendship with this lady. Seems to me that she is just using you. I'd tell her to cough up all the expenses involved in keeping kitty for the past 8 months - food, shelter, vet bills, etc. What's the boarding rate per day in your area for a cat??? I'll bet she'd change her mind really quick when faced with 8 months of expenses.

Or you could always tell her that kitty was so sick, that it had to be PTS. Maybe that's somewhat mean-spirited, but as long as she doesn't visit you, how is she to know???

I don't think that trying to appeal to her common sense and tell her that a move would be detrimental to kitty's health would work, because it doesn't sound like she has the common sense she was born with.

Keep us posted and let us know what happens - okay? Good luck, and bless you for caring.

[redbird]

Sorry I'm so late with this response but my thumb has been injured and couldn't type. Anyway I agree with everyone who said do not give that women that kitty back, she doesn't deserve to have an animal. Good luck to you.

[Herbstie]

Cat???? What cat????? *POOF*!!! Get my drift??

Hahaha, we've considered that! We're still waiting to make sure we know where the law is in Wisconsin, thankfully (?) I had a small health scare with my brother (he's 100% better now, phew!), so I may or may not have used that as an excuse to buy us some time... I'll keep everyone updated, thanks again!!

[DriftyAlison0]

So any updates?

[Herbstie]

Update: Fin is still with us, I haven't had any contact with my friend, I think she knows now that he needs to stay with us (she has already quit her job to work as a bartender, so her flakiness hasn't really changed). The last time I heard from her was early February, at the time I didn't return her call, my dear sweet kitty Meekert had passed on days before from complications from kidney failure so I was not about to discuss her wanting to take another baby from me. I think she knows it was for the best, she loves going out and having a very active social life, so Fin would have been alone all the time. Thank you all again for the advice and support, I'm so happy it all worked out for us, he's definitely a very special member of the family!

[sasvermont]

I am glad you still have the kitty. I am sorry your lost one in the meantime. I hope your one time friend forgets your phone number.

Thanks for keeping us updated.

Your lesson was a lesson for us all, I'm afraid. There are tons of nice people out there but every now and then you run into someone who just doesn't get it (life).

[Karen]

Update: Fin is still with us, I haven't had any contact with my friend, I think she knows now that he needs to stay with us (she has already quit her job to work as a bartender, so her flakiness hasn't really changed). The last time I heard from her was early February, at the time I didn't return her call, my dear sweet kitty Meekert had passed on days before from complications from kidney failure so I was not about to discuss her wanting to take another baby from me. I think she knows it was for the best, she loves going out and having a very active social life, so Fin would have been alone all the time. Thank you all again for the advice and support, I'm so happy it all worked out for us, he's definitely a very special member of the family!

We are so glad! He deserve love and stability!