Advice.......?

[wvmutts]

I PM'd you a link of a forum other there women have gone through similar situations as yours. I hope someone there will be to help you.

[wolfsoul]

I have to agree with CatLady here. Adoption is also a difficult process, but it is much less expensive and obviously doesn't require any invasive surgeries. You have to remember that alot of reproduction problems can be genetic, and with both of you having issues you may very well produce a baby with the same problem.

However, I am also very much into holistic healing. I would consider going to a naturopath if I were you. It is possible that you are your hsuband may have something in your environment that is putting a stress on your reproductive organs and making them shut down or not work properly. All it can take is cutting some things out of your diet (that you may have no idea your body does not react well to), probably going on a cleanse (to detoxify and revitalise all of your organs), taking special supplements, etc. I go on cleanses regularily and I can tell you, they will heal problems you never thought you had. My friend is always cleansing and she recently went in for a small surgery to check her uterus (she was having symptoms of some kind of cancer -- turned out to be nothing) and when the doctor closed her up he said she had he healthiest uterus he'd ever seen -- and she is 42 years old!! I would really consider the naturopath -- tell him about your problems and he will do the necessary tests and tell you of your chances after you start a health program. It may sound silly but trust me!

Good luck.

[Babyboonie]

Hi, thanks for responding - it means a lot to me right now.

I've had a couple of forums PM'd to me, which are really useful. I've even posted my first thread on one of them which is a bit scary...however, i'm sure they are just as nice and helpful as the people on here.

I do agree with the adoption route, however the guidelines are so tough that i'm terrified they will turn us down because of something silly like we both work all day, or our garden isn't big enough etc. I know that sounds daft, but it's just the way I feel at the moment.

I also considered the surrogacy option as that would increase the chances of carrying full term, but I just don't think I could bare watching someone else carry my child for me when it's something I really want to do for myself. Maybe that's just because everything is so fresh and raw at the moment - in time other options may seem like little rays of hope...rather than obsticles.

[Sara luvs her Tinky]

My advice would be pray about it...

I never thought I would have children... I was 25 when i got divorced and we never had any together. I accidentally got pregnant and my "most stupid" BIGGEST fear was that something would happen and i would have to have a c-section. I thought it wouldn't be fair... like i would miss the "real" experience of having a baby.

My pregnancy was a nightmare.. i spent the whole 10 months so depressed... then HAD to have a c-section.

But now that he is here.. the pregnancy and c-section... are so the past.. Now he is my whole life.

Although you want to experience being pregnant.. once the baby is here .. you never really think about it again (well i don't)..

If you have other options like adoption or a serrogate.. pray about them. Things happen for a reason. You may be here to be a mom to another special person.. and once they are in your life... that is all you will think about.