I cried when I heard of your loss and I just want to say that she dosen't want you to feel guilty about not going to bed with her. How were you to know? I feel your sadness. Tomorrow will be a month that I lost my Ling-Ling. She was 18 years old. Sometimes at night I go to her grave and sing to her. Whitey (I hope I'm spelling her name right) is okay there are kitties in Heaven, please don't doubt that for a second. Special cats like her never just go away. She's watching you from high above. You know how cats love looking down from high places? Well, I hope I made you feel better and remember you will see her again. I have absolutely no doubts about that.