Need To Say Something.

[Tina]

I was not really sure how to title this post. Since giving up Jake to a new home. I have really missed having him around alot! Both of the kids have really missed him also.

I was very down in the dumps and feeling sick last week crying over giving him up. I felt it was the right thing do at the time and I could foster other pups. I'm sorry say but this is not for me. I really do not know how people do it. But I do admire them alot!

I thought I could do the foster thing and I really wanted to. But I just knew I'd fall in love with every pup I brought home with me. I'm so sorry.

My husband and I both talked it over and we decided that maybe now is right time for our 4th dog. We went in to the humane society on Friday and picked out a puppy. There was tons of puppies there and very hard to choose. I wish I could have took them all home!

We decided on a Golden Retriever, German Shepherd mix. We will be getting her tomorrow. I so can't wait! She had to be spayed before we got to bring her home. She is 7 weeks old.

I know there are going be people not to happy with me. That is fine and I understand it.

But I just felt we needed to give that little girl a special home.

I will be sure to post pictures when we get her home if anyone wants to see them.

[Samantha Puppy]

Okay, I didn't have an issues with the whole Jake thing but this is getting really silly. I think it's ridiculous to add on another member of your family when you don't even have a home right now. What happens when someone says something later on in this thread to hurt your feelings? Will you say that this one will be a foster too and find another home for it?

I don't know, Tina. If I were you, I'd have so much else on my mind right now - namely getting my home back, my children, my existing pets, my husband, etc. - not getting another dog, especially after only a week or two after you let go of Jake.

Would I like to get another dog? You bet! Does it not bother me that so many dogs out there are homeless and need loving homes, and that I technically could provide that for them? Yes, it bothers me immensely. But I have too much going on in my life to worry about bringing another dog into my house, not to mention the whole money issue - which I have to guess you're not exactly rolling in with what you're dealing... and the overall thing that causes me to think and live by what I've just said above is responsibility. I could adopt another dog or two, but I won't. Instead, I'll just give whatever I can to local rescues and shelters.

[moosmom]

Samantha Puppy,

Very well said!

[aly]

I agree with Jaime.

This is just getting kind of ridiculous. I consider myself patient and understanding, but I'm getting tired of this continuous cycle of animals you're going through. I'd advise you to read thorugh the Jake thread. You admitted you have problems you need help with. You admitted you can't even take care of your daughters sometimes. And you admitted to making snap decisions.

You've rehomed such an incredible amount of animals during the past couple years and are always full of excuses. Maybe it is for the better for the animal that you rehome them. But shouldn't that mean that you should STOP getting new ones?

I am terribly sorry for all of your tragedy and heartbreak. I think you need to buck up now though. Be strong and work out your problems. Don't bring any more innocent lives into this until you have absolutely everything resolved. And there's no way you could be 100% back to normal when you've had so many problems for so long.

If the pattern follows, after a few people disagree with you here, one of the following will happen:
- You'll delete this thread and possibly the others about Jake
- You'll go to General and start a thread asking why no one trusts you, everyone hates you, and people jump to conclusions about you (then later delete it)
- You'll start deleting massive amounts of posts about previous pets you no longer have

I'm not jumping to conclusions or passing any judgement, but my god, this has happened TOO MANY TIMES. Please stop. I beg you. I'm not trying to be mean, but my heart can't take all this. Seriously, I do feel bad for you, and I feel REALLY bad for the animals as well.

[Tina]

No I am not going say this pup is a foster. I told you that I can not do the foster thing.

Sure people are going say things that are going to hurt my feelings, that is just their opinion.

I do have alot on my mind and we are trying get stuff together so we can get ready to build. I take very good of my kids and the pets I have now. So please don't tell me I need to worry about them!! I do my best to be a great wife, mother and pet owner. But some people here just can not see that!

I also don't see how me adding another pet to our family right now is any different then someone renting a home. Maybe I am wrong and maybe I am not.

You can think whatever you want to think...that is fine!

[caseysmom]

It seems to me your trying to fill some void with these animals but you have a pretty full load already. I am 43 and have 2 daughters and 2 dogs. My cat gigi recently died, I had her for 14 years and I am soooo hesitant to replace her and god how I ache to get another kitty. I am not trying to be judgemental just giving you an older more experience point of view, your current kids...skin and fur need your full attention right now...I think if you really dedicate yourself to nurturing them that you will help yourself also.

Don't forget...adoption is a life long committment.

[Tina]

I said I had a hard time caring for them about 2 months ago. Because my depression had gotten that bad.

I'm doing alot better then I was and I'm taking very good care of my girls.

You know you can give me your dissaproval all you want. But it is not going change anything. I've done adopted the puppy and she will be part of the family.

[Kfamr]

VERY VERY VERY well said Aly and Jaime.

VERY.

[Tina]

Ok, believe what you want! I'm not a bad person or pet owner!

I'm not going be deleting any posts.

[caseysmom]

Have fun with your new pup Tina I really mean it...I hope it all works out well for you.

[Denyce]

YOU DON'T SEE THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ADDING A PET TO THE FAMILY AND RENTING A HOME?!?!?!?!?!!?!?!!??!!?!?!?

One happens to be a living breathing creature that feels pain, love, happiness, sadness etc etc. What is wrong with you?

YOU...not others....but YOU have said in previous posts on other threads about the difficulties in dealing with your children and other pets and even in dealing with LIFE in general. You really need to get a grip on yourself and your life before adding another.

Right now the only words I can come up with is Misguided, Confused, Selfish and Irresponsible. You started down the right track in getting counsling but you seem to behave like an alcoholic only instead of thinking booze will make you feel better you think adding another INNOCENT life to your mess will help. Then when things get toooo hard again you throw it away.

I feel so sorry for the innocent lives you are dragging through your sickness. You truly truly need help Tina.

I didn't want to post on this however that first line set me off...*shaking my head*

Denyce

[Tina]

I Did Not say I don't see a difference between adding a family pet to a home and renting.

I said I don't see how it is any different adding a home where I am at now. Then someone else adding a pet to there home that rents. That is what I meant!

[caseysmom]

I think Tina's comment about renting is that since they don't own a home right now what the difference between renting and owning ...as far as having a place to keep her dogs...thats just my take.

In Tina's defense it does seem like she finds the dogs homes...I am not trying to get into it and I agree that it doesn't sound right to us but Tina if you have decided this its your decision.

[dukedogsmom]

Same problem, different dog and day. If you don't want to hear what we have to say about it, quit making these threads! That's all I'm saying on this.

[Tina]

So I am not suppose say anything about the new pup?

Oh, and there are not going be anymore of these threads!