Guys, I really need to vent!

[Cookiebaker]

OK, I work at a small company with only 1 other female employee and the rest (six) are die-hard fisher/hunter/wild outdoors type guys. I know that they aren't the animal lover in the sense that I am but I must admit that I'm SICK AND TIRED of being called the "Big Loser" because stories that they sometimes tell upset me. I really try my hardest to block out what they are saying but since I work in a cubicle, it gets kinda hard not to hear.


Today, it was really bad. I was late to work because as I was running out the door to work, Marigold puked all over the kitchen floor, and I was explaining that I had to clean it up (YUK YUK YUK!) and that's why I was late. Anyway, that started them down this long road of talk of how nasty cats are, and what they like to do them (very very cruel & unusual punishments) etc. etc. etc. And they don't just say this about cats, it's about dogs and any other creature that they don't deam "useful".

They very well know how I feel about things like that, and I tried so hard not show how very upset I was because I didn't want them to tease me.

Anyway, I know this post is pointless, but it's been nagging me all day, and it feels better to have it off my chest. Thanks, Pettalk!

[Airedalekisses]

Oh, consider the source! If their brains were as large as they think another part of their body is they'd be fine!! Sometimes I think men's neck sizes are larger than their IQ's . Sounds like you've got a bunch of monosyllabic, mouth breathing Neanderthals working there! There how's that for a putdown!! Hope Marigold is ok after the upchuck episode!

[moosmom]

Cookiebaker,

Relax and just ignore them. There's one guy where I work who has bluntly told me "he hates cats". I already can't stand the man. He's one of out best sales reps but is a loud-mouthed smart alleck who has an answer for everything. I just let it pass. You might want to do the same. There ARE jerks out there who try to get a rise out of some cat lovers. The people you work with sound like them.

Don't take it personally. I don't.

[KYS]

posted by Airedalekisses:Oh, consider the source! If their brains were as large as they think another part of their body is they'd be fine!! >>>>>>

LOLOL! That was a good one.
I honestly think they are saying those things to bug you.
Men are just little boys, that never fully grew up.

2 weeks ago, one of the male officers brought in 6 baby ducks
that were walking in the street. 2 had already been killed,
and their was no mommy duck to be found.
Well all of us women were so excited to watch
the baby ducks. Every single man that
came in, to look at the ducklings, made jokes about: cooked duck, what's for dinner, yada yada yada. The only one man that did not
make a joke was a senior volunteer who took the
ducklings after work to a sanctuary. I guess it takes
old age to grow up sometimes. lol
I rest my case!!!

[carole]

They are doing this to taunt you, as they know how you feel, so it gives them some big sick pleasure out of telling you cruel things, as they know it will get to you.

As hard as it may be, try to ignore them or come up with something witty that will put them right in their place.

Obviously they think they are big MACHO guy's by telling these sick things, in truth they probably are not.

Maybe you need to find their weak spot, and see how they like it, I know two wrongs donot make a right, but sometimes..................

FEEL FOR YOU.

[Kfamr]

You know.. If I was in the position. I'd just walk out the door and leave. Quit. Find a new, better, animal friendly job. See how they would like it now, without your work.

[smokey the elder]

Originally posted by Airedalekisses
Oh, consider the source! If their brains were as large as they think another part of their body is they'd be fine!! Sometimes I think men's neck sizes are larger than their IQ's . Sounds like you've got a bunch of monosyllabic, mouth breathing Neanderthals working there! There how's that for a putdown!! Hope Marigold is ok after the upchuck episode!

Hey, that's an insult to Neantherthals!
It's hard, but they actually came from the shallow end of the gene pool.

[bnormal]

Cookiebaker, since it sounds like you pretty much hate these guys anyway I would speak to your boss. Mention to him/her how these conversations are bothersome to you and hinder your job performance. Then tell your boss that these "men" waste much time on the clock. Also mention to your boss that these "men" act in an unprofessional manner and do not treat you with respect. Tell your boss that these "men" are creating an unstable working environment. I would also document this and give it to your boss...and use the "h" word!

What is the worst that can happen by doing this? They'll end up hating you for doing this but it doesn't sound like you all get along anyway.

[IttyBittyKitty]

I would make a formal complaint to the boss. If that doesn't work, it's time to fight fire with fire. Some (tongue in cheek) suggestions:

1) Discuss, at length, the medical procedure of a vasectomy. "Wow, guys, I really find this interesting." Also mention what a "Eunuch" and a "Castralto" actually is.

2) Describe, in considerable detail, the story that was posted in Cat General about the cat that bit his owner's testicles.

3) Discuss with each co-worker why his car is a total piece of crap. Include reasons such as the car being underpowered, mostly driven by hair-dressers, favoured by rice-boys. You may need to do some research on this one if you are not a girly rev head like moi! If they have a hot car, praise them for their choice, but inform them that the car does not even come close to accounting for their less than favourable attributes.

4) Leave a magazine on their desks with ads about "viagra" and "love troubles" circled in red pen.

5) List all the reasons why they will never score with Liv Tyler, Drew Barrymore or Natalie Portman.

6) Engage them in a discussion about their hunting weapons. You will definitely need to do your research for this one. Then, armed (no pun intended) with the necessary information, discuss with them why their gun is usually the weapon of choice for 13 year olds shooting tin cans off a fence.

7) And finally, tell them that people who fantasise about or are activelly cruel to animals were usually pryos and bedwetters as childen. Mention that they often become serial killers. Make creative use of eyebrows work in your favour!

[catlady1945]

IttyBittyKitty - you are a devil! I guarantee if your suggestions are followed, Cookiebaker will be left alone.

[Cookiebaker]

Wow, IttyBitty, those are some great suggestions!!!

Thanks for the suggestions, everybody. Part of the problem is my boss is one of them.

Alot of it is difference in persepective. Their point of view is that animals are for hunting and eating. Mine is animals shouldn't be treated cruelly. And like I said, normally I don't let it get to me and I block it out. It's only when they get going on how cat's are good for nothing and what they like to do to them does it REALLY REALLY bother me.

p.s. I love that "Viagra" tip. ROFL!!

[mugsy]

Originally posted by IttyBittyKitty
I would make a formal complaint to the boss. If that doesn't work, it's time to fight fire with fire. Some (tongue in cheek) suggestions:

1) Discuss, at length, the medical procedure of a vasectomy. "Wow, guys, I really find this interesting." Also mention what a "Eunuch" and a "Castralto" actually is.

2) Describe, in considerable detail, the story that was posted in Cat General about the cat that bit his owner's testicles.

3) Discuss with each co-worker why his car is a total piece of crap. Include reasons such as the car being underpowered, mostly driven by hair-dressers, favoured by rice-boys. You may need to do some research on this one if you are not a girly rev head like moi! If they have a hot car, praise them for their choice, but inform them that the car does not even come close to accounting for their less than favourable attributes.

4) Leave a magazine on their desks with ads about "viagra" and "love troubles" circled in red pen.

5) List all the reasons why they will never score with Liv Tyler, Drew Barrymore or Natalie Portman.

6) Engage them in a discussion about their hunting weapons. You will definitely need to do your research for this one. Then, armed (no pun intended) with the necessary information, discuss with them why their gun is usually the weapon of choice for 13 year olds shooting tin cans off a fence.

7) And finally, tell them that people who fantasise about or are activelly cruel to animals were usually pryos and bedwetters as childen. Mention that they often become serial killers. Make creative use of eyebrows work in your favour!

Boy do I like the way you think. Definitely turn the tables on them. You might make mention that the size of the rifles are usually in direct contrast in the size of other "guns" and see what happens.

I would definitely make a joke about it so that they are assured that you don't really care what they do. It sounds like they are definitely trying to get a rise out of you. If you turn it back on them, they will eventually get the hint ! lol

[catland]

Sounds like you work with a bunch of 12-year olds. They've found a way to annoy you and they see no reason to stop.

If anything, you should silently pity these people because they have obviously not learned the joy that pets can bring to their lives. Just keep that thought in mind the next time they get rude like this. Also, remember its not all men - our male PT members just as enamoured of their pets as us female members.

[IttyBittyKitty]

So your boss is a neantherdal's embarrassingly slow cousin too? Well, you may need to tone it all down just a smidge! But! With guys, you need to stand up to them and eventually you will win their "respect" and they will back off. Give as good as ya get, gal!



P.S. I am a devil ... not too many mess with me and come out the winner

[bnormal]

Cbaker, I'm tellin ya...ya need to use the "h" word!!!!

Next time one of these morons starts messing with you, say in a loud enough voice for everyone in the office to hear, "I demand that you stop HARRASSING me"!

That word will get the bosses attention...guaranteed!