I wasn't sure where to put this so I'll try here. I'm not even sure this is an appropriate title but the only thing I could think of.
My uncle recently got married to a delightful lady. Its his 2nd marriage and her first. As they were dating and we would have family gatherings she would love on Keegan. She would sit and coo to her and rub her ears and pet her.
I thought things were cool.
She has cats is a bona fide cat person. I go to their house and I LOVE LOVE LOVE one of her cats. I'd steal her in a heartbeat if I could.
My cousin has a dog who isn't very cat friendly so he is not allowed to stay there anymore if they go away. There has been many issues over this new marriage that have nothing to do with the dog - most of it is simply lack of communication, jealousy over her dad getting remarried, and the new wife just not making an effort to get to know his kids.
but I digress.
Now when NW (NEW WIFE) is around Keegan she acts like she is scared to death of her. EVERY TIME and I mean E-V-E-R-Y T-I-M-E-- she is around Keegan - 'wow - that is a big dog - she gets bigger everytime I see her.'
Which PI$$E$ me off b/c number one you don't go up to someone and tell them their daughter looks fatter since the last time you saw her?! I am like - she wasn't afraid of her a year ago but now she acts like she is a big rabid drooling at the mouth ready to bite her at any provocation dog.. Normally I let the dog person vs cat person issue roll off my back. Not everyone is a cat person - pet person - dog person. I work with enough people that hate cats that have an irrational fear of them that it gets annoying. But to be love on and suck up to someone's dog when you are dating someone and then oh now I'm married I don't have to be nice to her anymore - doesn't compute with me. Now let me stress - she in NO WAY is mean to Keegan. She doesn't push her - strike her - or anything - I would have her on the ground before that would happen. She just cringes in fear when Keegan walks near her. Recently my cousin went away with husband and new baby and didn't have anyone to watch Maverick b/c NW is scared of him. I can't say I don't blame her for not wanting him around b/c he isn't cat friendly - its the same reason why I couldn't keep him over the weekend. I couldn't risk my cats lives and I don't blame NW for that at all.
I was talking to my mom - a bona fide NON PET person if there ever was one - the only dog she's ever liked is Keegan. And she started to lecture me on how not everyone can be a pet person not everyone likes dogs and cats (etc). And I cut her off b/c that isn't what this is about. This is about pretending to like someone's dog when you are dating the person's relative and then when the ring is on the finger - the true feelings come out. And I said - I may have to bring it up the next time. (b/c I have a hard time keeping my mouth shut when it comes to my own animals) The funny thing is she never needed to pretend to like Keegan, my uncle wouldn't have given a rat's tail if she liked her or not. I wouldn't have either. But the deliberate and odd 'change of heart' just upsets me.. I understand people's fear isn't rational at times - phobias etc. But I really don't think that is what this is.
Thoughts?
Thanks for letting me vent.
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