I suggest writing down the steps in large print for the coffee maker. Having things in writing often helps - and tape it either next to the coffee maker. or where he keeps the coffee.Originally Posted by Catsnclay
When I was helping my elderly Great Aunt, having things in writing that she could read every day helped a lot. It averted several crisis moments, and mitigated the only awful one. We needed to get her house appraised so she could sell it to us at what anyone would consider a "fair market value." Selling us her house was her idea - after we told her she couldn't, by law, just give it to us, that the nursing home would want money ...Well, the appraiser got there early, and one of the aides had moved Bertha's note reminding her what was happening that day, and I arrived to find her in tears, that this strange woman was going to sell her house out from under her. It took several minutes of hugs and explanations, and finding the paper where we had it written down really helped calm her enough to realize this was a good thing, just a small step in accordance with her own wishes.
What surprised me most was that the day she was to move to the nursing home, there were no tears at all, and she was ready to go. I had braced for that moment, but we had gone over and over the plan, and she had a star on the calendar, and it written down in her handwriting and mine ... and the day went off without a hitch. I was stunned.
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