My father is almost 80 and these past few months he has been getting worse & worse. I believe he is in early stages of diementia .
It is now up to me to look after him, and never being a parent myself I find it really hard to deal with him.
Most of the time he makes sense and understands what is going on, but lately the simplest things he cannot get.
He called us last night wanting to know how to make coffee in a coffee machine. He has always had a coffee machine in the house, now for some reason he has no clue as to what to do with it. My husband explained it to him, he wrote the instructions down, but when I called him this am he was upset because he couldn't get it to work.
This is not like him at all and I am worried. I have suggested that we go to the doctor together, but no he will not go, he says he is fine.
A few weeks ago his girlfriend called me in a panic, he got something in the mail from the bank (a bank he doesn't like, for some reason) that said his account was due. He insisted that he didn't have an account with them and they were just out to 'get' his money. She tried to call, but they would not give her any information, so I went to the bank with him (oh that was a tough task!) and not only did he have an account that was due (a large sum) but he also had another account with them that will be due in 4.08. OMG! he was adament and carrying on that I was so embarrased and kept apoligizing for him. Luckily they all knew he was sick and handled him rather well. But I felt like he was acting like a 3 year old throwing a temper tantrum!
I'm sorry this is so long & detailed, but is anyone going through something like this with their parents???
What do you do? How do I handle him?
And most importantly - HOW do I convince him he needs to see a doctor???!!!
I am not exactly 'well' myself, but I have to do something to help him. Yes I have a sister, but she is waiting around for both of my parents to "kick" - as she puts it, so she can live off their money. Currently my mother pays all my sister's bills now. She claims she is a designer, but rarely does she make money on her own. My mother & father divorced 6 years ago after 48 years of marriage - IMHO they should have divorced years ago. Not exactly a good or healthy marriage.
Anyone else going through this??????
(((((((((((((((HELP!)))))))))))))
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