lv4dogs
12-30-2005, 02:49 PM
I decided to post this here because you PT'ers are great! I figured I'd be bound to get some suggestions, ideas, word of encourangement, some thoughts & prayers or something at least.
I'm at witts end here. Desperate, really desperate and majorly upset. :(
I've been working for my father & brother who both own the business (it's just us 3) for about 5 years now (minus one year when I lived in Oregon about 3 years ago).
My father is a great boss & we finally became friends again shortly before I started here. (long story but we didn't get along well at all). He is everything I could ever ask for now, both as a boss, a friend & father.
My brother on the other hand is NOT reliable. My brother has quit on us before, with no notice even, just called that morning & said he found a better job and yes he was part owner then too.
EVERYDAY he has something to complain about, always. For the last year he's been talking about quitting again. Either he says he will open up his own shop closer to his home, quit, sell the business, if you can think of an excuse or reason to quit he has said & thought about it, seriously. I have always been scared to have a boss like that because you really never know what will happen or if I will have a job.
Well for the last few months his ideas to quit are getting worse & worse. My father & I are both scared.
His latest thoughts (which seem pretty serious) is to open a shop near him (he's even spoken to real estate agents & the such about it). He has spoken to my father about it but not me. I know of this because my dad tells me, like I said he is awesome. Anyways EVERYTHING here is in my dads name & I know my dad will not keep this shop by himself. So I am worried about what will become of him. But more importantly I am worried for me. I guess my brother said that if my dad doesn't want this place then he can get rid of it, my brother will keep the one near him & just pay my dad so much $ per week. And I will have one month to find a job (I will get paid for one month after this happens).
Now we don't know if this will happen, but if it does it can happen with only a days notice, thats just how my brother is.
My brother has no heart... he really doesn't.
I've been dealing with this for a year and I just can't take it anymore, especially since it seems to be getting more serious.
SO I want to quit. I need to quit. I have to quit to keep my sanity & to have a secure job.
Theres quite a few problems though. I have so much on my mind.
What if I quit but then my brother decides to stay & the business fails because they don't have me? And honest to god truth, I doubt they could survive with someone else doing my job. They would have to put up with a lot and at other times be bored out of their mind. They would also have to know how to do many tasks, I honestly pretty much run the entire business. They tried when I moved to Oregon, they went through a few employees in under a year, one of the employees was my dads g/f (well ex g/f now). She couldn't even put up with it, mainly the BS but she couldn't handle the job itself either.
What if I quit and that forces my brother to really act upon his thoughts & he quits & my father gets screwed because EVERYTHING is in his name.
My father & I have a long history. It took us about 22 or so years before we actually started to be friends. My dads temper can get the best of him and if I quit his temper will most likely flare up again and he'd hate me for it. I do not want to loose what took us so long to get... our friendship.
I am 99% sure that no matter what job I get I will have to take a decent paycut. I don't know what will happen with that. I'm just getting by as it is. My pets are all I have & there is no way in hell that I can loose them, not even some of them. I honestly don't know how I will be able to afford them. And I can forget about showing Kaige, I will be too broke. Gosh I am in tears now. Ugh I hate this. I can't stop crying.
Theres a ton of other little things too but they are not AS important. Like my dogs probably wouldn't be able to come to my new job, I wouldn't be able to use the net (my home computer is shot & I can't even afford a new one), I would have to bring my car to a real mechanic since my brother & father do a lot of work on it here at our work, the list can go on & on but I'm not too worried about what I mentioned in this paragraph.
To make matters worse I just "re-started my life" about 2.5 years ago, when terrible ex b/f caused a lot of heartache and abuse on my part and MAJOR financial problems on my part as well. I am JUST getting back on my feet from all of that.
I know I have to quit, in the long run it will be much better, but for now I just honestly don't know what to do or think. This has got to be the hardest time in my life.
I've heard so may horror stories about working with family, ours was so great when we first started I thought it couldn't possibly happen to us. I was wrong.
Please people never work for family. You can never tell the future and if something like this occurs you will be devestated.
There's so much more that I am thinking but I think this sums it up good enough for you guys, for now at least.
And yes I have thought about getting a rommate but there isn't anyone I know of that I trust that can live with me. I won't have a stranger because of all my pets.
I do trust one person and that person would live with me but that person has no car and is going on probation. (felony DWI). He really is a great person though. But I am not going to be a taxi & I don't want the bother of someone on probation.
I've thought about getting a second job but having a full time job & all these critters I just don't have enough time.
I've thought about a lot of things, nothing seems feasible.
Sorry for any spelling/grammer mistakes, my eyes are filled with tears. This is tearing me right the heck up.
UPDATE:
I am afraid things are not getting any better. Well they were for a while there, it was going great, JUST now things are going bad again... VERY VERY bad. I will know for sure by the morning, we are having a meeting tonight & tomorrow morning but I am afraid by the looks of things I will be quitting my job.
I am almost possitive that I will have to take a paycut. And I am aware that I *may* not be able to care for all of my critters. Oh gosh I am so sad. This is the ONLY problem I have with quitting this job but I just can not take it anymore. It is bad here at work.
If anyone knows anything about having pets as children & caring for them their entire lives it is me. I took in every pet with the meaning to care for them, to give them a FOREVER home, one that is loving. And believe me I will try my hardest to keep them all & care for them all but I am just not sure how it will be.
I am already in tears big time, my heart is already broken so please do not spam me about this subject at all.
I don't even until it happens, until I find out what job I get & what the pay will be but chances are I I doubt I could start off somewhere with what I make now. But even just the thought of even possibly having to rehome some of my pets tears me up like you wouldn't believe. I don't know how I will handle that one if it happpens.
This job is just tearing me up inside, I am not my usual self working here, I am way stressed out & it is not good at all. I really have no other option (besides winning the lottery). :rolleyes:
I will probably not be on too much the next couple weeks, I will be taking some time off to find another job. Once I do find another job I will hardly ever be on. My home computer is broke & now there is no way I can afford a new one.
I'm at witts end here. Desperate, really desperate and majorly upset. :(
I've been working for my father & brother who both own the business (it's just us 3) for about 5 years now (minus one year when I lived in Oregon about 3 years ago).
My father is a great boss & we finally became friends again shortly before I started here. (long story but we didn't get along well at all). He is everything I could ever ask for now, both as a boss, a friend & father.
My brother on the other hand is NOT reliable. My brother has quit on us before, with no notice even, just called that morning & said he found a better job and yes he was part owner then too.
EVERYDAY he has something to complain about, always. For the last year he's been talking about quitting again. Either he says he will open up his own shop closer to his home, quit, sell the business, if you can think of an excuse or reason to quit he has said & thought about it, seriously. I have always been scared to have a boss like that because you really never know what will happen or if I will have a job.
Well for the last few months his ideas to quit are getting worse & worse. My father & I are both scared.
His latest thoughts (which seem pretty serious) is to open a shop near him (he's even spoken to real estate agents & the such about it). He has spoken to my father about it but not me. I know of this because my dad tells me, like I said he is awesome. Anyways EVERYTHING here is in my dads name & I know my dad will not keep this shop by himself. So I am worried about what will become of him. But more importantly I am worried for me. I guess my brother said that if my dad doesn't want this place then he can get rid of it, my brother will keep the one near him & just pay my dad so much $ per week. And I will have one month to find a job (I will get paid for one month after this happens).
Now we don't know if this will happen, but if it does it can happen with only a days notice, thats just how my brother is.
My brother has no heart... he really doesn't.
I've been dealing with this for a year and I just can't take it anymore, especially since it seems to be getting more serious.
SO I want to quit. I need to quit. I have to quit to keep my sanity & to have a secure job.
Theres quite a few problems though. I have so much on my mind.
What if I quit but then my brother decides to stay & the business fails because they don't have me? And honest to god truth, I doubt they could survive with someone else doing my job. They would have to put up with a lot and at other times be bored out of their mind. They would also have to know how to do many tasks, I honestly pretty much run the entire business. They tried when I moved to Oregon, they went through a few employees in under a year, one of the employees was my dads g/f (well ex g/f now). She couldn't even put up with it, mainly the BS but she couldn't handle the job itself either.
What if I quit and that forces my brother to really act upon his thoughts & he quits & my father gets screwed because EVERYTHING is in his name.
My father & I have a long history. It took us about 22 or so years before we actually started to be friends. My dads temper can get the best of him and if I quit his temper will most likely flare up again and he'd hate me for it. I do not want to loose what took us so long to get... our friendship.
I am 99% sure that no matter what job I get I will have to take a decent paycut. I don't know what will happen with that. I'm just getting by as it is. My pets are all I have & there is no way in hell that I can loose them, not even some of them. I honestly don't know how I will be able to afford them. And I can forget about showing Kaige, I will be too broke. Gosh I am in tears now. Ugh I hate this. I can't stop crying.
Theres a ton of other little things too but they are not AS important. Like my dogs probably wouldn't be able to come to my new job, I wouldn't be able to use the net (my home computer is shot & I can't even afford a new one), I would have to bring my car to a real mechanic since my brother & father do a lot of work on it here at our work, the list can go on & on but I'm not too worried about what I mentioned in this paragraph.
To make matters worse I just "re-started my life" about 2.5 years ago, when terrible ex b/f caused a lot of heartache and abuse on my part and MAJOR financial problems on my part as well. I am JUST getting back on my feet from all of that.
I know I have to quit, in the long run it will be much better, but for now I just honestly don't know what to do or think. This has got to be the hardest time in my life.
I've heard so may horror stories about working with family, ours was so great when we first started I thought it couldn't possibly happen to us. I was wrong.
Please people never work for family. You can never tell the future and if something like this occurs you will be devestated.
There's so much more that I am thinking but I think this sums it up good enough for you guys, for now at least.
And yes I have thought about getting a rommate but there isn't anyone I know of that I trust that can live with me. I won't have a stranger because of all my pets.
I do trust one person and that person would live with me but that person has no car and is going on probation. (felony DWI). He really is a great person though. But I am not going to be a taxi & I don't want the bother of someone on probation.
I've thought about getting a second job but having a full time job & all these critters I just don't have enough time.
I've thought about a lot of things, nothing seems feasible.
Sorry for any spelling/grammer mistakes, my eyes are filled with tears. This is tearing me right the heck up.
UPDATE:
I am afraid things are not getting any better. Well they were for a while there, it was going great, JUST now things are going bad again... VERY VERY bad. I will know for sure by the morning, we are having a meeting tonight & tomorrow morning but I am afraid by the looks of things I will be quitting my job.
I am almost possitive that I will have to take a paycut. And I am aware that I *may* not be able to care for all of my critters. Oh gosh I am so sad. This is the ONLY problem I have with quitting this job but I just can not take it anymore. It is bad here at work.
If anyone knows anything about having pets as children & caring for them their entire lives it is me. I took in every pet with the meaning to care for them, to give them a FOREVER home, one that is loving. And believe me I will try my hardest to keep them all & care for them all but I am just not sure how it will be.
I am already in tears big time, my heart is already broken so please do not spam me about this subject at all.
I don't even until it happens, until I find out what job I get & what the pay will be but chances are I I doubt I could start off somewhere with what I make now. But even just the thought of even possibly having to rehome some of my pets tears me up like you wouldn't believe. I don't know how I will handle that one if it happpens.
This job is just tearing me up inside, I am not my usual self working here, I am way stressed out & it is not good at all. I really have no other option (besides winning the lottery). :rolleyes:
I will probably not be on too much the next couple weeks, I will be taking some time off to find another job. Once I do find another job I will hardly ever be on. My home computer is broke & now there is no way I can afford a new one.