Pray for my dad

[dukedogsmom]

A few years ago, he was having to go to Moffit Cancer center because he was making too many red blood cells. That was under control and not too dangerous. They told him if it ever went to making too many white blood cells that would probably mean Leukemia and the life expectancy from that would be three months. Well, mom just got back with him from the doctor and his body is making too many white blood cells. We are not telling him that because he has been doing a little better while using oxygen at night. Now he has to have a bunch of tests to find out if it is Leukemia. I feel kind of guilty because I haven't enjoyed spending time with him lately. He won't do anything for himself and just sits all day and watches tv and eats there, too. He gets me and mom to do everything for him. I want to scream at him to get up and walk some before you aren't able to do it any more. I just hate that he won't do anything for himself that would help him. I get angry at him because I know he's not helping himself this way. So now, I need to ask for patience because I don't know what the future holds.

[jesse_3]

That must be terrible for everyone! (((((HUGS))))) to you.

Prayers and thoughts are being sent to you and your father.

Steph and Jes

[GoldenLuv]

Prayers and thoughts sent to you and your father

[catnapper]

Oh Val, I am so sorry. I can understand your frustration at him expecting your mom and you to do everything, and I'm sure you feel guilty now for being frustrated with him. ((HUGS))

I'll send lots of prayers for him and your family.

[DJFyrewolf36]

Prayers on the way :(

[CagneyDog]

{{{Hugs Val}}} Lots of prayers on the way for you and your dad.

[luvofallhorses]

Prayers on the way. (((hugs)))

[Pam]

Val his inability to do much may be due to depression about his illness. I would overlook it and do all that I could for him. Should his diagnosis of leukemia be correct, God forbid, you will be able to know that you showed him love all through his illness.

[caseysmom]

Val, I went through the same type of thing with my mom, she had bad arthritis all her life. I would lose patience with her sometimes when I felt like she could do more.

When she died I felt guilty about those thoughts and times I showed it. You can never get this time back even if its not leukemia he is not getting any younger and you will probably be like me and keep mulling it all over. Tell him you love him as much as you can.

[NoahsMommy]

((((Val))))

I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. Is has to be so hard for each of you, in different ways. You so want to see your dad enjoy the life he HAS. But you have to remember that people deal with things differently.

Hon, don't let up on him. I know my positive attitude in relation to my illness is because my family is like you. Live life to its fullest...

I'll pray for patience as well. This has to be hard for you to watch.

I'm on a drug used to treat leukemia. Its very strong and is for my Crohn's. My body metabolizes it well, luckily. Its called Mercaptopurine. It helps the body create less white blood cells, thus slowing my IBD...or Leukemia in your dad's case. When you get the results, will you let us know? Maybe this drug can help your dad too?

Hugs and love,
Kelly

[sandragonfly]

prayers being sent!

I really feel you, val! my father is just like this, physically not exactly like yours yet...but as he is getting older.. makes me sadder. :( I'm not good with ingoring my guilty that way but just remember, what he did to you wasn't great. you had your right avoiding him, it can be happier and devastated at the same time.

hope something will come up for the best very soon, many hugs!!

..gina

[finn's mom]

Oh, god, Valerie, I'm so sorry to hear that your dad is so sick. :( My brother had leukemia when he was a child, I don't remember it much, though. I'm sorry that you feel your patience wearing thin with him. He's dealing with it the way he knows how to, just as you're dealing with it the only way you know. Just do your best, no one can expect any more out of you than that. I'll be thinking of you both...

[king2005]

Thats terrible :(

I do hope he gets better.

But u have to see it from his point of view. All he sees in his future is nothing, but pain. Just from reading ur above post, it seems likes hes suken into depression & a bad on too.

My grandma did the samething & my dad is having to fight with her childness everyday, but he knows its not her fault. & he just ignors her when shes acting that way.

But hes found that sitting inthe same room with her has helped her alot. He'll sit in his chair & watch whatever shes watching & tries to be interested in it like she is.

No grandma talks alot & is finally going outside for walks with dad & loosing weight.


Try just sitting in the same room alot with him & see if he perks up a bit.

[trayi52]

Prayers and good thoughts on the way from Tennessee, Val, along with lots of hugs.

Willie

[Corinna]

HUG HUG HUG HUG
Prayers winging their way to you and your family.

[K9karen]

Geez, Val, I feel so bad for you, especially since you yourself are still recuperating. I sympathize. Mom and I catered to dad 24/7 when he got worse and as much as I resented it at times, I look back with no guilt at all. Same with mom. Although towards the end she couldn't walk, she wanted me to just move things on a table from "here to there", something she could do. Sometimes I gritted my teeth, but I have no regrets. Now I miss it. Your dad must be feeling ill and very scared, I'm sure he knows something is up. Depression takes on a lot of forms. I hope he gets the medication and care he needs to help him feel better. Call me if you want.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Val, I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. Can sympathise with how you are feeling. All I can say from my experience that if your Dad has chosen his path (sounds very similar to the one mine took) all you can do is keep loving him.......

I got angry with mine for not making any effort but he really didn't want to battle with Parkinsons so once the anger faded we just spent time together.

Sending you a HUGE hug from me and the furrkids xxx

[pitc9]

Val, prayers are on their way to you and your family.
Remember we are all here for you always!

[petslover]

I am so sorry to hear about this. This must be a hard family. I will pray for you and your family.

[Anita Cholaine]

Sending prayers for your dad... I'm so sorry to hear that you're in this situation ((((HUGS))))

[slick]

Hope I'm not to late in adding my prayers to the prayer lineup. Please keep us posted, OK?

[Chica]

All our prayers are with you for your dad!!!!!