Fatal Attraction???

[moosmom]

A friend of mine at work told me of an older gentleman who comes into her floral shop once a month to buy flowers. He's a pilot, owns his own plane and aldo drives a charter bus. They got into a conversation about cats. He found a cat who was pregnant and took her in. The kittens were born on April 4th. He needed advice as to when they could be adopted, etc. She got his name and number and gave it to me.

I called him to offer my advice (ONLY!!!!) on the mama and kittens. Since his airplane is stored at a hangar in Grosse Ile, I suggested he call the Grosse Ile shelter and talk to Lora, which he did. She is taking in the kittens when they're ready to be adopted.

Anyway, he SEEMS like a nice man. But, he asked me if I could use a man in my life and asked me out to dinner. :eek: I was a bit taken back by his directness. I figured what harm could it do.

Well, he had to cancel dinner at the last minute because of a charter he had to drive to Kalamazoo. No problem. This guy, who I have never met before, calls me at work from his hotel room!! :eek: My supervisor was sitting next to me. I politely tried to tell him NOT to call me at work, and gave him my home number. He proceeded to say, "This is the most luxurious hotel room I've EVER been in, complete with jacuzzi!" "God I miss you and wish you were here with me!"

:eek: This guy is scaring the living crap outta me. I told all my friends and relatives that I am screening my phone calls through my answering machine. If they need to get hold of me, call my cellphone. At least that has caller id on it.

So, what do you think??? Is this guy gonna leave a bunny boiling on my stove??? I really do not like his pushiness.

[Tubby & Peanut's Mom]

All I know, Donna, is that you're no wilting violet and you tell people like it is and you're not shy about telling people what you think, so why not tell this guy you don't like his directness and you'll be glad to help with the kitties, but DO NOT call me at work and I don't care to hear about the jacuzzi in your luxurious hotel room and just leave me alone! Sounds like "the relationship" is still pretty new and you haven't let him into your life too much so I don't think there's too much to be worried about, but do stay on your toes.

The guy may just be lonely and want someone in his life and not realize he's being overly pushy so you need to let him know.

[PJ's Mom]

I agree. Be very direct from the very beginning, and be careful. :eek:

[moosmom]

Sounds like "the relationship" is still pretty new


Debbie,

That's the thing, there IS no relationship. We've talked on the phone three times. Once when I gave him advice about the kittens. The second time he called me at home, asking me if I wanted company!! :eek: And then at work on Friday!



All I know, Donna, is that you're no wilting violet and you tell people like it is and you're not shy about telling people what you think

Okay, so I AM a little direct, shall we say??? But this guy's Judzpah just shocks the hell out of me.

[davidpizzica]

Donna, I'm not too thrilled with that situation. I don't believe ANY man should push himself on a woman. Pease, Donna, be very careful! I love you, Donna.

[King Spartacus]

OK... I'm gonna be pretty direct here... He's a sad, and desperate man! Tell him you got a new boyfriend or something... (as I doubt he'll stop calling if you say you're not interested) Make something up, and hopefull he'll get the message.

My advise... do not meet him. He's probaly completly harmless... but if he thinks he "misses you" and "wants you in a hottub"... can you imagine how he'd be like if you ever met up... and you didn't like him? OMG... imagine trying to tell him after dinner that you don't want to see him again! By that time, in his mind you've probably been in the hottub several times... mighten even have gotten married!!!

he did a wonderful thing, taking in the mommycat and her kittens... but he's clearly bonkers! (Crazy) There's tons of catloving non-bonkers guys out there, you'd be better off with one of them!!! Hah-hah!

Best wishes, Sylvie (KS' mom)

PS: Being a little bonkers is always good... but too much of a good thing makes you "insane"!

[Vette]

Im with King Spartacus...

you spent a day with him(if that) and hes all ready hawling your name at the moon and misses you?

definitly sounds like hes up to no good,, and after a.. good time :o with you...


something sounds strange anyway...

[carole]

Yep Donna I would also be very wary of this gentlemen, He might just be a lonely man, but he is far too direct, he obviously has conjured up some kind of fantasy about a relationship with you, flattering as it might be, you know to be cautious, I think you should just be very direct with him, if you seriously don't want his attentions say so, besides there is a much nicer gentleman in Pittsburgh who is neither pushy or sad, just a real great guy ya know lol.:)

[Vette]

My brother came up with an idea and said that if hes continueing to call and bother you,, you could say something like (I have your IP and if you call again ill phone your IP# into the police for Child Porn)

if he asks what a IP is,, tell him its like a finger print you leave behind on EVERY website you ever went too.

and hopefully he has a computer...LOL



if he continues with annoying you.. get the cops involed and say that your scared he might do something to your or your family.

[davidpizzica]

Originally posted by carole
Yep Donna I would also be very wary of this gentlemen, He might just be a lonely man, but he is far too direct, he obviously has conjured up some kind of fantasy about a relationship with you, flattering as it might be, you know to be cautious, I think you should just be very direct with him, if you seriously don't want his attentions say so, besides there is a much nicer gentleman in Pittsburgh who is neither pushy or sad, just a real great guy ya know lol.:) Aw, shucks, Carole! (starting to blush!)

[carole]

Bro just putting a good word in for you,and besides I mean every single word I said, Donna wake up.:D

[davidpizzica]

Originally posted by carole
Bro just putting a good word in for you,and besides I mean every single word I said, Donna wake up.:D Carole, a man like that pushing a sweet lady like Donna makes me a little mad. I can't stand that kind of behavior from a man. I'm going to give Donna a call tonight.

[carole]

I am glad Donna has such a caring, sweet friend like you, who can alway's be relied upon., friendships like that are like Diamonds, precious and rare.:)

[davidpizzica]

Originally posted by carole
I am glad Donna has such a caring, sweet friend like you, who can alway's be relied upon., friendships like that are like Diamonds, precious and rare.:) Carole, it sounds like this "gentleman" wanted Donna to be carried away with the hotel room, jacuzzi, etc. This kind of behaviour should set up all kinds of red flags in Donna's mind. I know she is a strong person, but she can be hurt. I don't want to see her hurt. I just tried to call her, but she was not home. I left a message.

[ramanth]

Yikes, Donna, YIKES!!

Definitely be up front and tell the guy that you do NOT care for his direct approach. He may be harmless, but obviously dense. Yeesh!

It reminds me of the time while Shawntell was engaged. She works in a real estate office and was helping a guy out with his loan.

He later emailed her thanking her for her help and wanted to know if she wanted to go out.

She respectfully declined, explaining she was engaged.

His response?

"Oh I know. I saw the ring. I just thought you might like to have some fun on the side." :eek:

MEN! :mad:

[finn's mom]

This is crazy. He's never met you and already saying he misses you. What a creep. I would definitely not meet him. Let us know the outcome!

[furrykidsmother]

It sounds scary to me. I certainly would not meet him and I think it is time you told him that you do not like the approach. He may be harmless and just lonely, but I wouldn't want to find out. Let us know how things go. Please BE CAREFUL!! He doesn't know where you live does he?

[sasvermont]

I would ditch this man very quickly. He sounds like a nut case.

Run from him.

Wow.

SAS

[moosmom]

Thanks for your concern everyone. No, he doesn't know where I live. I talked to my friend Kara yesterday about it. She's the one who gave me his number.

She feels VERY bad about his behavior. He usually comes into her flower shop on Mondays. She's going to tell him not to call me anymore, that he got his advice on the kittens and to leave me alone. I told her it's not HER fault he's acting like such a whacko.

Carole,

I'm awake!! :eek: Davidp is a wonderful, caring man and I value his, and EVERYONE here's opinions. Too bad David doesn't live closer. :(

[kuhio98]

He sounds like a sad, lonely, clueless man.
He might be so clueless that he thinks he's flirting in an appropriate manner. :rolleyes:

His "technique" is pitiful and desperate. I'd be honest with him and tell him that his comments are inappropriate and worrisome. I wouldn't be alone with him. If you do decide to meet him, I'd do it in a group setting. Don't invite him to your house. Be careful.

Note to all men: "Do you need a man in your life?" is an awful line. No, we don't need men. But, they can be a wonderful addition to our lives.

[davidpizzica]

Originally posted by moosmom
Thanks for your concern everyone. No, he doesn't know where I live. I talked to my friend Kara yesterday about it. She's the one who gave me his number.

She feels VERY bad about his behavior. He usually comes into her flower shop on Mondays. She's going to tell him not to call me anymore, that he got his advice on the kittens and to leave me alone. I told her it's not HER fault he's acting like such a whacko.

Carole,

I'm awake!! :eek: Davidp is a wonderful, caring man and I value his, and EVERYONE here's opinions. Too bad David doesn't live closer. :( Donna, you're not the only that wishes I were closer to Detroit!

[NoahsMommy]

Donna,

I'm glad you're listening to your instincts...some people just don't know when to stop. :(

Be careful honey. I'm glad he doesn't know where you live. That makes me feel a bit better.

Hugs,
Kelly

[dukedogsmom]

He sounds like a nut case to me. I wouldn't have given him my work number at all. How can he miss you when he doesn't even know you? I would stay as far away as possible from him.

[carole]

Donna and David I would not let a little geography stand in the way, hey I have been there done that, I managed a relationship from the states once, ok it did not eventually work out, but it was for the best, I mean you guy's aren't that far away in comparsion really, he he.

Glad to hear that the problem might be resolved Donna, sure sounded a bit scarey, we can't have one of our favourite PTer's in jeopardy thats for sure, take care Donna.:)

[moosmom]

Well, he called me at work yesterday. I was VERY short with him. I told him I was very busy and please do not call me again.

Haven't heard from him since!!!

[davidpizzica]

Originally posted by moosmom
Well, he called me at work yesterday. I was VERY short with him. I told him I was very busy and please do not call me again.

Haven't heard from him since!!! Well done, Donna! I hope you NEVER hear from that creep again!

[finn's mom]

Good job! :)

[DJFyrewolf36]

:eek: What a jerk!

Geez, I've been in that situation and it is scary. But I know that you'll be direct and to the point (and it seems as if you already were ;) ) and hopefully he will get the hint.

If not, I'll drive out there and make sure he "understands" the situation!!

David, Carole, need any help lol?

[davidpizzica]

Originally posted by DJFyrewolf36
:eek: What a jerk!

Geez, I've been in that situation and it is scary. But I know that you'll be direct and to the point (and it seems as if you already were ;) ) and hopefully he will get the hint.

If not, I'll drive out there and make sure he "understands" the situation!!

David, Carole, need any help lol? We can use all the help we can get, DJF! You can come out here and "explain" it to him in words of one syllable!

[DJFyrewolf36]

Originally posted by david p
We can use all the help we can get, DJF! You can come out here and "explain" it to him in words of one syllable!

LOL! I've been known to be a bit of an enforcer around here. All my friends in high school always came to me if someone was being too pushy :D I guess I'm kind of intimidating :confused:

Is being a champion Kickboxer and Tae Kwon Do fighter scary?

[shais_mom]

Originally posted by DJFyrewolf36

Is being a champion Kickboxer and Tae Kwon Do fighter scary?


uh huh!!!

:eek:




;)


The thing that creeps me out is he said he misses you when he hadn't even MET you!!!
weirdo!!!

take care Donna!