catnapper
03-26-2005, 09:41 AM
My daughter is driving us NUTS. Long story short, My son's best friend has had a crush on her since freshman year. He's a senior now. This guy is a great kid - smart, sweet, has a job, funny, you name it --- he's a general great guy and we love him. My daughter finally "noticed" him this year (she's a junior) and the timing always seemed wrong for them - either she had a boyfriend or he had a girlfriend. Well, finally a few weeks ago, they were both free and clear to date each other (whew!)
He asked her to the Prom and she excitedly said yes. They've gone on many dates. Things were going great. Then all of the sudden she started pushing him away. Typical for her... she pushes people away all the time. I think she's "testing" them to see if they give up and go away or if they hang in there and show her how much they care for her. Last night he came over, and we were all hanging out in the livingroom. He bought her some Easter gifts.
Things were low-key and everyone was having a good time. Then all of the sudden she gets up and heads to her sister's bedroom and puts in a movie. :confused: At first we thought she just headed to the bathroom or something, so when ten minutes passed and she never returned, we sent her sister up to find out what was going on. Next thing you know, the girls were bothed holed up watching the movie :rolleyes: The poor guy sat there looking at hubby and me shrugging his shoulders. I swear he looked like he was about to cry. Then he finally (half an hour later) went up to join them watching the movie. My son followed too.
She now says she only thinks of him as a friend. I think it has more to do with the fact we like him and he's a nice boy. She has had the tendency to like "bad boys" in the past. Each time they end up hurting her, and she still keeps looking out for those bad boys. :rolleyes: Here she has a great kid that respects and likes her, and she's pushing him away.
Now, all of you teens here (and perhaps parents who relate) please shed some light on this situation! We can't figure it out! Even her sister is saying "I don't know!" All their friends think he's cute, funny, etc, so its not as if he's not "cool" enough for her.
Are we missing sometign here? Of course she won;t talk to us about it. She only gives a lame excuse of "I like him as a friend" which we know isn't true because she's been sighing about him since September
Sorry to write a short novel here! :o
He asked her to the Prom and she excitedly said yes. They've gone on many dates. Things were going great. Then all of the sudden she started pushing him away. Typical for her... she pushes people away all the time. I think she's "testing" them to see if they give up and go away or if they hang in there and show her how much they care for her. Last night he came over, and we were all hanging out in the livingroom. He bought her some Easter gifts.
Things were low-key and everyone was having a good time. Then all of the sudden she gets up and heads to her sister's bedroom and puts in a movie. :confused: At first we thought she just headed to the bathroom or something, so when ten minutes passed and she never returned, we sent her sister up to find out what was going on. Next thing you know, the girls were bothed holed up watching the movie :rolleyes: The poor guy sat there looking at hubby and me shrugging his shoulders. I swear he looked like he was about to cry. Then he finally (half an hour later) went up to join them watching the movie. My son followed too.
She now says she only thinks of him as a friend. I think it has more to do with the fact we like him and he's a nice boy. She has had the tendency to like "bad boys" in the past. Each time they end up hurting her, and she still keeps looking out for those bad boys. :rolleyes: Here she has a great kid that respects and likes her, and she's pushing him away.
Now, all of you teens here (and perhaps parents who relate) please shed some light on this situation! We can't figure it out! Even her sister is saying "I don't know!" All their friends think he's cute, funny, etc, so its not as if he's not "cool" enough for her.
Are we missing sometign here? Of course she won;t talk to us about it. She only gives a lame excuse of "I like him as a friend" which we know isn't true because she's been sighing about him since September
Sorry to write a short novel here! :o