joycenalex
11-13-2004, 12:53 PM
i've got a work place bully, and i'm planning on taking some steps to make the bullying stop. i'd appreciate some feed back. background first, i've worked there 7 years, and while i have in-office friends, but i'm not "one of the popular girls", most of whom are friends with the boss. the bully is part of a clique that has in the recent past gotten another employee into deep trouble by carrying tales and the drip drip of gossip to the boss, that employee, cindy, is now on an 'employee improvement plan'. the bully has worked there for 3 years, i will say she is an excellent technologist and very capable. she has been dating this guy for 18 months at least, but he hasn't proposed and to be married is what she really wants. i think that is upsetting to her. our boss is being pulled out of the office for meetings quite often and isn't seeing alot of these behaviors. on monday, the bully told me to dump the laundry, on wednesday, i took a message(one of many daily from her sister) and left it on the computer where she was assigned, she was not in my line of sight, and i was engaged in helping my patient, so i didn't go looking for her, 3 minutes later, when she found the note, she fussed b/c i didn't come and get her. on friday before lunch, she raised her voice to me, and i when i explained that i was doing something else at that minute, but would be there soon, she verbally attacked me for not dropping what i was doing to help her. none of this was in front of other staff. i said, stop, we'll discuss this with the boss on monday, i'm done. at that point she said if i wanted to tattle to go ahead. she then went to the lunch room and announced my 'transgressions' to the assembled staff. intrestingly, none came to talk to me about it.
i spent time thinking about it and decided that i would do was document last weeks events, ask the boss for a meeting with the bully and the boss on monday, and call the employee assistance program to set up some stress related discussion for me, and to be vigilant in my internal job search.
i like my job, i need to keep it, but i'm not willing to let the bullys' behavior start getting me into trouble with my boss. i know that by going to my boss, and complaining about one of her friends i'm making waves. how come the mean girls from high school still thrive in a work enviroment. sigh.
i spent time thinking about it and decided that i would do was document last weeks events, ask the boss for a meeting with the bully and the boss on monday, and call the employee assistance program to set up some stress related discussion for me, and to be vigilant in my internal job search.
i like my job, i need to keep it, but i'm not willing to let the bullys' behavior start getting me into trouble with my boss. i know that by going to my boss, and complaining about one of her friends i'm making waves. how come the mean girls from high school still thrive in a work enviroment. sigh.