catnapper
03-09-2004, 02:12 PM
Right now, I'm not too fond of my only sibling. He and I have always been opposites. I spent my childhood thinking life was good and he spent it counting the ways mom was just terrible. He started making mom misreable and feeling guilty in his late teens/early twenties and mom is now to the point that she bends over backwards to make him happy. And now that he gave her a grandson, she's been even more annoying.:mad:
Anyhow, he sees my mom all the time since they live only a few miles apart. I am not at all jealous of their ability to see each other since I live nearly 2 hours away.
Now that you have a bit of background and set-up, here's what I'm mad about (and I'm hoping for some suggestions as to what to do) I am planning on renting a booth at the Baby Expo - there'll be 10,000 people roaming through the expo center that weekend. I will be showing my portraits and hoping to get some exposure and lots of new work. Its from Friday morning to Sunday afternoon.... a looong weekend. Mom is taking off Friday to be there for me, and will spend most of Saturday. I will be having my husband and step-daughters there throughout the weekend too. On Sunday, Grant is taking his entire class to a baseball game (so he obviously won't be there.) I told mom that he had this set-up months ago and asked her if she could please sit with me again Sunday. She immediately agreed... both because she wants to help me on "my big day" and because she wants to be with me as long as possible because she hardly ever sees me anymore.
Anyhow, my brother got tickets to the circus for the same weekend. He asked mom and she told him no, that she'd be helping me. Then he must have laid a guilt trip on her because she called me asking if I'd mind her not coming Sunday. I said, "yes I do mind because I really really need you there." She told me that she honestly doesn't like the circus and that she thinks the baby's too young to enjoy it anyway. So she agreed to stay with me.
Half an hour later, my brother calls flipping out about it!:( He said that mom wanted to go but is making light of it because she doesn't want to upset me. Then he told me about how she promised a long time ago that she'd go with him to the circus (BTW - all his inlaws will be there with their kids, etc. Why should my mom tag along? Sounds like the perfect day for the wife's side of the family.) He's laying a major guilt trip on me. I don't think I can do anything but agree to let mom go with him (the big drama king that he is.) If I still request mom spend the day with me, then I come across as a slefish inconsiderate person. His rant was left on voince mail since he called my other line and I didn't hear it ring.
If any of you have ever worked a whole weekend at a convention or trade show, you know that they are emotionally and physically draining. I REALLY could use anybody and everybody whenever possible. My brother has worked trade shows and is more than aware of how exhausting they are... last year, he worked the same expo (his company was a sponsor) and he had to take 2 days off from work to recouperate (poor baby)
Please - I need opinions as outsiders see the situation. I know my brother and I have our "issues" so I don't want to react based on our history.
Sorry I went on so long.:(
Anyhow, he sees my mom all the time since they live only a few miles apart. I am not at all jealous of their ability to see each other since I live nearly 2 hours away.
Now that you have a bit of background and set-up, here's what I'm mad about (and I'm hoping for some suggestions as to what to do) I am planning on renting a booth at the Baby Expo - there'll be 10,000 people roaming through the expo center that weekend. I will be showing my portraits and hoping to get some exposure and lots of new work. Its from Friday morning to Sunday afternoon.... a looong weekend. Mom is taking off Friday to be there for me, and will spend most of Saturday. I will be having my husband and step-daughters there throughout the weekend too. On Sunday, Grant is taking his entire class to a baseball game (so he obviously won't be there.) I told mom that he had this set-up months ago and asked her if she could please sit with me again Sunday. She immediately agreed... both because she wants to help me on "my big day" and because she wants to be with me as long as possible because she hardly ever sees me anymore.
Anyhow, my brother got tickets to the circus for the same weekend. He asked mom and she told him no, that she'd be helping me. Then he must have laid a guilt trip on her because she called me asking if I'd mind her not coming Sunday. I said, "yes I do mind because I really really need you there." She told me that she honestly doesn't like the circus and that she thinks the baby's too young to enjoy it anyway. So she agreed to stay with me.
Half an hour later, my brother calls flipping out about it!:( He said that mom wanted to go but is making light of it because she doesn't want to upset me. Then he told me about how she promised a long time ago that she'd go with him to the circus (BTW - all his inlaws will be there with their kids, etc. Why should my mom tag along? Sounds like the perfect day for the wife's side of the family.) He's laying a major guilt trip on me. I don't think I can do anything but agree to let mom go with him (the big drama king that he is.) If I still request mom spend the day with me, then I come across as a slefish inconsiderate person. His rant was left on voince mail since he called my other line and I didn't hear it ring.
If any of you have ever worked a whole weekend at a convention or trade show, you know that they are emotionally and physically draining. I REALLY could use anybody and everybody whenever possible. My brother has worked trade shows and is more than aware of how exhausting they are... last year, he worked the same expo (his company was a sponsor) and he had to take 2 days off from work to recouperate (poor baby)
Please - I need opinions as outsiders see the situation. I know my brother and I have our "issues" so I don't want to react based on our history.
Sorry I went on so long.:(