Sad news

[Queen of Poop]

My mom has passed away. I knew she was feeling a little off, she blamed it on the weather. I did not expect this, until she failed to answer her phone yesterday then I knew.

[phesina]

Oh, Gayle, I am so sorry. My very deepest sympathy to you and all your family and all who love her and mourn her and will miss her. Hugs to you.

:love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love:,
Pat

[Taz_Zoee]

I am so sorry. :(

[cats4ever]

I am so very sorry for your loss.:love::love::love: My condolences to you, your family and everybody who knew her.

[Karen]

Sending you great big hugs and comfort in this unsettling time.

[mon]

So very sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you at this painful time.

[Catty1]

Sending you loving hugs. Take care of yourself as much as you can. :love::love::love:

[Randi]

I'm so sorry for your loss and send my deepest sympathy. :love:

(((hugs)))

[Queen of Poop]

Thank you everyone I had to identify her yesterday at the medical examiner's. Was a hard day. Today I meet with her lawyer and accountant. Struggling. My IBS is not good. I miss her so much! Tomorrow is her birthday

[phesina]

Oh, I'm so sorry, Gayle. More Hugs to you.

:love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love:

[mon]

So sorry for your loss, hope you are getting support at this difficult time. Sending heartfelt good wishes of comfort.

[snakemama]

I'm so sorry for your loss

[RICHARD]

I have been away and just read this.

I am sorry for your loss.
My mom was sick for a while, but that didn't soften the hurt and the sadness when she left the world.

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In the days and weeks following her passing, I had times where I was stumped, lost, confused and wanting a little guidance - when that happened I got myself into the habit of taking a few moments and going thru a 'checklist' of questions/affirmations?

Not in any order?

Can I do this?
I can do this.
Mom wouldn't be happy if she saw me now.
I can get to tomorrow, this will be better then.
Mom WOULD be proud of me because I just (fill in the blank).
What would mom say?

That last one was a game I played when I really wanted to have a conversation with her. I'd try to think about what she'd say and what advice she'd give me in that situation.....She always agreed with what I said!

Keep your chin up!

[Queen of Poop]

Thank you everyone. Mom is home with me now, I picked up her "ashes" this afternoon. 😢

She was cremated on her birthday. 😢😢😢

[cassiesmom]

I am very sorry, Gayle. I’m thinking of you today. Big hugs to you.

[Felicia's Mom]

I am so sorry, Gayle.

[robinh]

I am so very sorry for your loss.

[Queen of Poop]

Thank you everyone. It's been 3 weeks now. Not getting any easier. Miss the routine of calling her every day. Miss her asking how her grand cats are.

[tatsxxx11]

Oh Gayle, I'm so, so very sorry for your loss.:( Do take care of yourself, and remember, you have friends here to lean on.
Love and hugs~
Sandra

[Karen]

Gayle, I am gonna email, okay? Sending love and hugs.

[Queen of Poop]

Gayle, I am gonna email, okay? Sending love and hugs.

Ok

[mon]

Couldn't help but have a wee cry, knowing that you are grieving. What a painful loss for you, I am so sorry. It is good to know you love her so much and always will. That is a wonderful gift. Please be gentle with yourself and take care of your health as well as you possibly can. We are all on your side and want everything that is best for you. You need some time to heal it will get easier. ❤️

[Queen of Poop]

Thank you Mon.

Today I go sign the probate documents. Then I'm meeting the realtor at moms house. Making progress in that regard.

The physical toll of this is showing now. My IBS is awful, which I expected. I did not expect to wake up Monday morning with vertigo. So long as I'm upright it's not too bad, but lying down is not an option, room spins out of control.

This sucks!

[Catty1]

Thank you Mon.

Today I go sign the probate documents. Then I'm meeting the realtor at moms house. Making progress in that regard.

The physical toll of this is showing now. My IBS is awful, which I expected. I did not expect to wake up Monday morning with vertigo. So long as I'm upright it's not too bad, but lying down is not an option, room spins out of control.

This sucks!

Gayle, please take some time and check in with your doctor. Grab a friend and go out for several minutes of quiet girl time. HUGS.

[mon]

I agree with Catty 1 Queen. I was taking medication for vertigo a few moths back and it worked in a very short amount of time. I don't need it anymore and I suffered no side affects. Your physical well being is so important to stay on top of, your Dr. will help you out. Sending you my best wishes and thoughts.

[phesina]

Dearest Gayle, I'm so sorry you are going through such a difficult time. I wish I could hold you tight to keep the room from spinning!

Take care of yourself, see your doctor, get together with a good friend or more. Take it easy on yourself. You are doing a wonderful job with all this very hard work! Your love for your mother shines through.

{{{{{HUGS}}}}} and ~~~~PURRRS~~~~ and :love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love: from Pat and Poppy and Sparkler

[mon]

Dear Queen, I could not agree more with phesina. You are doing a very good job at handling everything at this difficult time. I realize that it might not not feel like you are but you most certainly are. Please keep reaching out and talking to people, you are not alone and everything that you feel and think matters very much.

[momoffuzzyfaces]

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom 11 days after my 13th birthday and have missed her every day. Prayers are with you at this sad time.:love:

[mrspunkysmom]

I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs.

[Queen of Poop]

The day has come that I will be scattering Mom's ashes. I've sold her house and need to do this before the new owners take possession. Her request was to have me mix her ashes with those of my brother and sister and scatter them on the hill beside her house.

It's going to be a hard day.

[phesina]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

:love::love::love::love::love::love:

[cats4ever]

Stay strong and take care of your health!:love:

[Queen of Poop]

Stay strong and take care of your health!:love:

Ah yes, speaking of my health...i have not one, not two, but 3 lumps in my right breast. I will be having a biopsy on March 23.

[mrspunkysmom]

Ah yes, speaking of my health...i have not one, not two, but 3 lumps in my right breast. I will be having a biopsy on March 23.

Oh, Even more hugs. I guess it's time to schedule that mammogram. Prayers for a benign outcome for you.

March 23? April or May?

[phesina]

Hugs to you and Purrrs from Poppy and Sparkler.

:love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love:

[Queen of Poop]

Oh, Even more hugs. I guess it's time to schedule that mammogram. Prayers for a benign outcome for you.

March 23? April or May?

Whoops, April 23.

[phesina]

We're sending good wishes and warm energies for you with that mammogram!

:love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love:

[Queen of Poop]

Yesterday I said goodbye to my mom's house. The new owners take possession May 4th. It was a very hard thing to do. I visited the site where I scattered her ashes. It was so beautiful, among the trees with rays of sunlight coming thru.

I had a biopsy on the three lumps last Monday. I will find out Tuesday afternoon what they are. Regardless, I want them removed.

[mbsmum]

Good wishes to you. Hope the lumps are benign.

[Karen]

Sending love and hugs. I agree on getting the lumps removed - I am a member in good standing of the "Good Riddance to Bad Parts" club.

[cats4ever]

Best wishes, and I hope the results are negative.:love:

[phesina]

Loads of good wishes and {{{{{HUGS}}}}} and ~~~~PURRRS~~~~ and :love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love: to you, Gayle, from Pat and Poppy and Sparkler.

[mrspunkysmom]

Hugs and wishing for good results on your tests.

[Queen of Poop]

Thank you everyone. Today at 3:30 pm I get the results.

[Karen]

Gayle, as well as all of the cancervivors pulling for you, I am gonna ask a couple very special angels, a dear friend Ann C. and my mum-in-law Mary to watch over you, fierce strong ladies both. Ann who lost her fight with breast cancer, and Mary who beat it twice.

[Queen of Poop]

Thank you Karen.

[Queen of Poop]

The medical examiner's office called me Friday. They finally had her cause of death - complications if diverticulitis, a natural death. If she'd not been so stubborn and seen a doctor she might still be here. I miss you Mom.

[cats4ever]

I'm sure it gave you peace of mind, finally knowing the cause of death.
However, all the "what ifs" afterwards don't make it any easier.
Sending you comforting thoughts!:love:

[phesina]

{{{{HUGS}}}}} to you, Gayle.

:love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love:

[cassiesmom]

{{{{HUGS}}}}} to you, Gayle.

:love::love::love::love::love::love::love::love:

From me too! :love: