I'm getting my stuff - DONE!!!!

[Queen of Poop]

I'm finally getting access to my stuff. Rather than go to court in the divorce he sent a settlement offer. The lawyers are working with it and I have today received a key to our lake house so I can go there and get my things. Next week I will get the key to the storage locker where he moved all of my things from the house - these he held for ransom. :D

[Daisy and Delilah]

Great news, Gayle!!!! Finally something to be happy about. You go girl!!! :D :D :D

[Pinot's Mom]

I'm so glad, Gayle! Happy dance!:D

[Catty1]

YAAAY! I guess there was information he didn't want made public hee hee hee! :D

I hope he can be held accountable - even criminally charged.

But you are getting your stuff, and that is WAY COOL! :)

[krazyaboutkatz]

This is wonderful news!!!:D I'm so happy for you.:)

[moosmom]

QOP,

I'm glad you're getting your stuff back. However, I would suggest bringing a sheriff with you when you go get your stuff, for your own protection. JMO.

[phesina]

That's fantastic! I'm so happy for you.

[Marigold2]

I would bring along several friends for help and protection.
Best of luck to you. I am so glad the tide is turning in your favor.

[Queen of Poop]

I have one friend coming with me and a letter of agreement (in hand) between the parties that I and only I can be on the lake premises for the period July 23 to August 6, inclusive. It would not be in his best interest to be there. I will have camera in hand to photo everything and am preparing myself for possible carnage. I am just so excited to be able to get my things, finally. With luck, this whole thing will be a done deal next Friday when the court order, laying out the agreement for the disposition of the properties, etc. is done.

With loads of luck I will be able to get a house soon, and then welcome a new dogger to our family.

[Marigold2]

Let us know how it goes.

[moosmom]

QOP,

Look like you've got it all under control. Never thought of bringing a camera. Great job!! Glad you're getting your stuff back and moving on. I wish you lots of luck and love.

Donna and fur kids

[Queen of Poop]

Ha, ha, ha. The laughs on me. NONE of my stuff was there!!!! Well, next to none. 4 shirts hanging in the closet were mine, otherwise NOTHING! And the place is a pig sty!!!! Can you say DIRTY!!! OMG, it certainly isn't how I left it. It can't be put up for sale this dirty. So I drove 1 1/2 hours each way for basically NOTHING. But I've got photos!!! Oh do I have photos.

[Catty1]

Hee, hee, hee - PHOTOS!!!!! bwahahahahaaaaaa

Go get 'em, Gayle! :D

[Karen]

Thank goodness you brought the camera. Well, 4 shirts and knowledge of the condition of the place anyway, I guess that's better than nothing! Hopefully the storage place will have most of your belongings, and is likely in better condition!

[momcat]

Be sure to document everything and bring every last thing with you when you go back to court.

[moosmom]

What Eileen said. Document EVERYTHING!!! I learned that from working for lawyers for 12 years.

[Anikaca77]

I hope you are able to get the rest of your stuff out of the storage unit next.

I'm sorry you had to drive there for only 4 shirts. I'm glad you have photos.

[Catty1]

They had better be GREAT SHIRTS! ;)

[Queen of Poop]

They had better be GREAT SHIRTS! ;)

They're not, but they are MINE.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

:love:

[Queen of Poop]

The count down is on now. 2 more days till I get the key to the storage locker. Stressing big time about the condition of my things held within. After the condition of our lake home, I am certain he took even less consideration with my things. Expecting alot of stuff to be broken and damaged. I will of course have camera in hand to document it all. I am now expecting the worst. :(

[Catty1]

{{{hugs}}} I hope some of your stuff, if not all, is ok.

Anything that isn't - try to think of it as ammunition for your fight.

:love:

[Alysser]

I am glad you are finally getting your stuff back, they may not be in great condition but don't forget to make that be known in court. ;) But who knows, it might be good as new! Keep us updated.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

The count down is on now. 2 more days till I get the key to the storage locker. Stressing big time about the condition of my things held within. After the condition of our lake home, I am certain he took even less consideration with my things. Expecting alot of stuff to be broken and damaged. I will of course have camera in hand to document it all. I am now expecting the worst. :(

Good luck and remember its another step towards your new life :love:

[Queen of Poop]

Thanks for the support everyone.

Today is a difficult day, it's our 9th, and final, wedding anniversary. And tomorrow I get my last gift, the KEY!

[Anikaca77]

Good luck and I really hope your stuff isn't broken.

I'll be thinking about you tomorrow and today as well.

Melissa

[Pinot's Mom]

Good luck Gayle! Hope for the best! :love:

[lvpets2002]

:) Same Here too..


Good luck Gayle! Hope for the best! :love:

[Queen of Poop]

Not getting NOTHING!!


Maybe next week. :mad: :mad: :mad:

[Karen]

Sending hugs, sorry!

[Daisy and Delilah]

{{{{{Gayle}}}}} :(

[wombat2u2004]

Akkkkkkkk....these people are messing you around too much mate :mad:

[phesina]

BUMMER!

More {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} and ~~~~~PURRS~~~~~, Gayle.

[Catty1]

OMG what now???? HUGS! I hope all this crap is over for you soon, and that you-know-who gets what's coming to him!:mad:

HUGS! :love::love::love:

[Queen of Poop]

I've calmed down now so I can explain better. You're right Wom, they are messing me around too much.

Here's how it all went. Last Thursday I was to get all the keys and all my stuff. Then whoops, he had the key to the storage place with him, but I could have that the following Thursday (today). Just after 3 pm today I'm notified now that I can't get the key till Tuesday, apparently he won't be back till Saturday (from wherever he's at) and being a long weekend his lawyer can't get the key to mine till Tuesday. Now when do you figure he determined he'd not make the deadline of today? Nice that it came at the end of the day. And what happens on Tuesday?

I didn't exactly believe he'd changed and this just proves it. Historically I could never admit to being happy about anything as it would lead to the proverbial rug being yanked from under my feet. He's done it yet again. I should have known better, I've seen it so many times.

[Catty1]

This is the last rug he'll pull, I believe and hope. Your lawyer will push for a trial again if this nonsense keeps up!

The gluten-free Cochrane celebration will happen soon. It will.

{{{{hugs}}}}

[Marigold2]

Here is my two cents worth. He is losing control........... And he knows it. Soon he won't be able to screw with you any more so right now he is taking that last bit of power he has to mess with you.
Just know it will be over soon. His power to hurt you will be gone. And you will be FREE. He will remain his miserable self unhappy and unhealthy and you dear Gayle will grow and blossom and thrive.
You life will get better and better. First you have to go through this last journey and then freedom and happiness awaits.
We are all behind you here. We all send prayers, good wishes and hugs.
We know you are a good and smart women, you will be ok, you will be great. Stay strong, the best is yet to come. :love::love:

[Queen of Poop]

This is the last rug he'll pull, I believe and hope. Your lawyer will push for a trial again if this nonsense keeps up!

The gluten-free Cochrane celebration will happen soon. It will.

{{{{hugs}}}}

Thanks. That celebration might have to come early so I can get a peek at those kittens!

[Queen of Poop]

Here is my two cents worth. He is losing control........... And he knows it. Soon he won't be able to screw with you any more so right now he is taking that last bit of power he has to mess with you.
Just know it will be over soon. His power to hurt you will be gone. And you will be FREE. He will remain his miserable self unhappy and unhealthy and you dear Gayle will grow and blossom and thrive.
You life will get better and better. First you have to go through this last journey and then freedom and happiness awaits.
We are all behind you here. We all send prayers, good wishes and hugs.
We know you are a good and smart women, you will be ok, you will be great. Stay strong, the best is yet to come. :love::love:

Thank you so much for your kind words and your support. I believe you are absolutely correct.

[Catty1]

Gayle - first kitten goes for spay on August 4....I think it would have to be this Sunday! :)

[wombat2u2004]

Yeah, just get it all over and done with as soon as you can, and then there will be no more games he can play. ;)
Hang in there mate.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Here is my two cents worth. He is losing control........... And he knows it. Soon he won't be able to screw with you any more so right now he is taking that last bit of power he has to mess with you.
Just know it will be over soon. His power to hurt you will be gone. And you will be FREE. He will remain his miserable self unhappy and unhealthy and you dear Gayle will grow and blossom and thrive.
You life will get better and better. First you have to go through this last journey and then freedom and happiness awaits.
We are all behind you here. We all send prayers, good wishes and hugs.
We know you are a good and smart women, you will be ok, you will be great. Stay strong, the best is yet to come. :love::love:

Agree 100% with this :love:

[moosmom]

QOP,

Sorry you didn't get your stuff. YET...:(

[smokey the elder]

Why do soon-to-be-former mates have to act like such d****bags? I think it's time to sic your lawyer on him again.

[Queen of Poop]

Gayle - first kitten goes for spay on August 4....I think it would have to be this Sunday! :)

I now have a 4 day weekend and nothing but time since I won't be busy emptying a storage locker. I could bring them some cat toys that aren't used by Cali and Diego.

[Laura's Babies]

He just isn't ready to let go and move on is he? That is so childish. What a 1st class jerk!

[Marigold2]

If we lived close by I would come over and give you a hug. And a dinner, liquid to start. Something fresh and fruity with an umbrella.

[wombat2u2004]

If we lived close by I would come over and give you a hug. And a dinner, liquid to start. Something fresh and fruity with an umbrella.

That sounds good. Not sure about the umbrella tho, they always get stuck halfway down my throat no matter how much I chew them. :p

[Queen of Poop]

Thank you Marigold. Sure could use that hug. And all this stress is really cutting into my eating. I get stressed I don't eat.

Wom, thanks for the laugh. Think I needed that more than anything. You're fabulous!

Thank you to all my friends here for your support.

Waiting to see now if I get the key Tuesday. As it's now mentioned in a Court Order I assume there will be problems if he does not provide it that are beyond just upsetting me and my lawyer.

[Karen]

You have to eat! Treat yourself to something yummy, okay? It's a new month, and things will start turning around for you, I just feel it!

And remember, you've been electronically adopted by the Peterson clan, so you can always count of me or Lady's Human - or even Jenn, Lady's Other Human, for a shoulder and a good strong hug. Jenn married in, but I'm sure she's capable of giving a Peterson-quality hug by now!

[Queen of Poop]

Thanks Karen. I did have a piece of no gluten chocolate spelt cake when I met Candace earlier today! It was very yummy.

And thank you to all of you being my adoptive family. Think I could coax Lady over to the couch with a dog cookie?

[Lady's Human]

Coax Lady over to the couch? She's bribed easily. A cookie and a good scritch and you have a dog shawl. I take no responsibility for the black fuzz on your shirt, however.

[Karen]

Thanks Karen. I did have a piece of no gluten chocolate spelt cake when I met Candace earlier today! It was very yummy.

And thank you to all of you being my adoptive family. Think I could coax Lady over to the couch with a dog cookie?

Head on down to Thursday's, and she'd be yours for the promise of a belly rub - the cookie will just get her there faster!

[Anikaca77]

I hope you get the key tomorrow. My thoughts are with you.

Melissa

[Queen of Poop]

I am wondering if there will be a passing of the key tomorrow. I'm anticipating not and wondering what happens if that is the case.

[Catty1]

THIS will happen!

http://icanhascheezburger.files.wordpress.com/2010/08/at-at-walker-cat-joost5.jpg?w=500

Or everything will go to trial and EVERYONE will hear what is in your affadavit. ;)

[Queen of Poop]

Got the key. 45 minutes before the noon deadline. Of course it is located out of town, in Okotoks. Not that far really, but enough to be very inconvenient for me. I have to have it emptied by month end.

I won't be getting my inch thick wooden cutting board - apparently it was broken in an accident?????

I also won't be getting the portrait of Sasha and I, reason given, he spent $2000 on those photos so I can't automatically have the one of me and my girl. Idiot! Hopefully my lawyer can demand this be mine. What does he need it for? I figure it's been destroyed.

[Karen]

So glad you at least got the key! Document everything, take pictures, etc. Any way you can contact the photographer and get a copy of the picture, even just an electronic copy?

[Lady's Human]

How do you accidentally break an inch thick cutting board?

[Anikaca77]

I'm so glad you got the key!!!

I hope all your stuff isn't broken but packed with some care. I hope you get the photo of you and Sasha.

Take care,
Melissa

[Lilith Cherry]

Good luck with the stuff in the storage locker, Gayle. Shame the cutting board didnt fall from a great height on to his thick head!!:p

[Catty1]

Shame the cutting board didnt fall from a great height on to his thick head!!

I'm sure a thick plank could be found and something could be arranged. ;):D

[Queen of Poop]

I will let you all know the condition of the rest of my things after I've seen them. Planning carefully so I don't fall into an ambush of any sort. Of course, will have camera in hand to detail what is found.

[Catty1]

You have people going with you, I hope. Like - a police escort?

Prayers going out!

[Laura's Babies]

I would NOT go alone! You will probably need witnesses as to how you found things and how you left things when you are done. Do you know any policemen that could go with you off duty? You need to COVER YOUR BUTT! Take pictures of your car/truck when it is loaded to prove what you took as well as making a list of every item. Take a picture of the storage unit as when you are ready to leave to show what you left.... BUT you will need witnesses that the pictures are accurate!

I'd take as many witness's as I could every time I go.

[Lillycat]

I hope at least this phase, the opening of the storage unit, is less painful than going to the lake house, insofar as contents go anyway.....so very sad.....

[Catherinedana]

Get a police officer to either go with you or meet you there. Not an off duty one. It's their job. Make sure someone else is with you as well. I know of several women who had the police meet them at their former residences whent they went to pick up their stuff, even if their former spouse was not supposed to be there. In a couple of cases, the person WAS still there and the police got them to vacate the premises. Call ahead of time and set something up. Get a friend or two to go with you each time you go. If you were here in Florida I would meet you there! Don't let him play games with you and don't think that he won't do something stupid or dangerous.

My former husband is considered a "mild mannered, likable man" by most people that know him, but when we were breaking up I made the mistake of getting in the car with him. He began driving recklessly and dangerously to frighten me saying that he didn't care if he lived or died. Thankfully we were close to our destination so I jumped out at the next light and walked the rest of the way. Be careful.

[pomtzu]

Gayle - what does he hope to accomplish by being an ass about everything? Does he think you'll back down and play dead? Why would he even want your things - other than to say he can do what he pleases and is more powerful than you. Is it an ego and power trip for him??? I just don't "get" guys like this! :eek: If he wants to be rid of you so damn bad, you'd think he would want you to get your things and get out of his life. Sounds like he still wants you under his thumb and to control you. Geeze.........

[NicoleLJ]

so sorry you are going through this. Hopefully your stuff is ok but if your ex is anything like mine then it could be wishful thinking.

[wombat2u2004]

How do you accidentally break an inch thick cutting board?

I have been known to break them over my head :D

[wombat2u2004]

Your ex sounds like a first class jerk.

[Queen of Poop]

Gayle - what does he hope to accomplish by being an ass about everything? Does he think you'll back down and play dead? Why would he even want your things - other than to say he can do what he pleases and is more powerful than you. Is it an ego and power trip for him??? I just don't "get" guys like this! :eek: If he wants to be rid of you so damn bad, you'd think he would want you to get your things and get out of his life. Sounds like he still wants you under his thumb and to control you. Geeze.........

Your last words are absolutely right on the money, sadly.

[Queen of Poop]

So my friend Anne and I went and found the place. Tried the code I was provided, no luck. Will call tomorrow and find out what the heck!! Anne is unavailable tomorrow as its her bday, so unless I can find someone else (unlikely) I will go again on Friday with Anne when she is available. So more waiting.

[wombat2u2004]

Gayle - what does he hope to accomplish by being an ass about everything? Does he think you'll back down and play dead? Why would he even want your things - other than to say he can do what he pleases and is more powerful than you. Is it an ego and power trip for him??? I just don't "get" guys like this! :eek: If he wants to be rid of you so damn bad, you'd think he would want you to get your things and get out of his life. Sounds like he still wants you under his thumb and to control you. Geeze.........

My take on this, is that he wants punish and hurt Gayle.
Some guys are like that....if they can't have what they want, then they lay waste to it.

[rosethecopycat]

So my friend Anne and I went and found the place. Tried the code I was provided, no luck. Will call tomorrow and find out what the heck!! Anne is unavailable tomorrow as its her bday, so unless I can find someone else (unlikely) I will go again on Friday with Anne when she is available. So more waiting.

I hope you get your results come Friday, it's gone on long enough. I'm sorry he's making it so difficult for you.
Thinking of you.

[Alysser]

Wait, I'm confused. He said he wants to "be rid of you.." but he keeps playing this bullcrap game? Ugh. I don't think he gets that he is screwing himself over royally by being a jerk and playing these games with you and your things. Can he actually get in trouble for lying to you about these things or lying about the code. I just don't get what his problem is.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v708/bobbernut/38488_446408561755_584036755_6104541_7624382_n.jpg

"Here, I gives you your stuff"

[Miranda_Rae]

YAY!!!! i am glad that you are getting your stuff, and i am glad that you are not going alone. In my opinion hes a control freak and since he cant have you as his wife, hes trying other ways to control you, but kudos to you for standing up for yourself and saying enough! :) Good luck. Keep us posted.

[Catty1]

That man is one sick puppy. This is almost over for you, Gayle - and you will come out just fine!:love::love:

[Queen of Poop]

I saw my stuff. I saw my stuff!!!!!!!!!!!!

Looks kind of like he went thru the house room by room and piled up all my stuff in storage. But I suspect that it was only done RECENTLY. As my 5 house plants were in storage, placed very near the back. I had to climb over stuff to get to them, but they're in my place now, they've had a much needed drink and I hope they recover.

Tomorrow Anne and I will try to organize it all and soon I will hire movers to move it into my storage locker where he will no longer have access.

I did also bring home with me the stuffed dog I had made at Build A Bear that is a Border Collie I had named Sasha. Amazing how something so small can make you feel so good.

[Queen of Poop]

Wait, I'm confused. He said he wants to "be rid of you.." but he keeps playing this bullcrap game? Ugh. I don't think he gets that he is screwing himself over royally by being a jerk and playing these games with you and your things. Can he actually get in trouble for lying to you about these things or lying about the code. I just don't get what his problem is.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v708/bobbernut/38488_446408561755_584036755_6104541_7624382_n.jpg

"Here, I gives you your stuff"

Thanks Mikey! You are such an adorable dogger!!! KISSES for you!!

His kind likes to be in control. I was intimidated for years into doing what he wanted. I'm not doing that any more, I wasn't brainwashed enough I guess, so this was basically the last bit of control he had over me, my stuff. That's gone now. So really, there should be nothing else he can do to hurt me ever again. He's a horrible person and I don't wish him on anyone.

But it's over now!! It's all over now. Well, almost. On October 12 we will be officially divorced. The settlement agreement is mostly in place. The light at the end of the tunnel is getting closer and I'm pretty sure it's not a train any more!

[Catty1]

:D Just the train that's a ride to freedom! YAAY! :D

[Queen of Poop]

It took Anne and I 4 hours yesterday to organize it all. Today I spent 2 hours going thru the boxes of my clothes and a few dining room boxes. I came home with 4 green garbage bags of my clothes - easier to carry. I've put alot of clothes into plastic bins that can stay in storage for now. So now I have SHOES and CLOTHES!!! Woo hoo. I'm exhausted but couldn't be happier.

[Karen]

Congratulations! Progress is good!

[Taz_Zoee]

Woo Hoo!! Glad you are getting this all handled, finally. Once this is done and the divorce is final you can move forward and never look back. I'm so sorry that you've had to go through all of this. But good for you for being strong and getting out of it.

[Catty1]

SHOES AND CLOTHING! Yaay! I'm so glad so much of your stuff was in decent shape. :D

I bet you can hardly wait til the settlement is done and you can MOVE!

[phesina]

HALLELUJAH! Well done!

[krazyaboutkatz]

I'm glad to hear this.:) Soon you'll be able to start fresh and never look back. I wish you the best of luck in the future.:)

[Anikaca77]

I'm so glad to hear that you got your stuff. :)

Hugs,
Melissa

[Pawsitive Thinking]

But it's over now!! It's all over now. Well, almost. On October 12 we will be officially divorced. The settlement agreement is mostly in place. The light at the end of the tunnel is getting closer and I'm pretty sure it's not a train any more

Great news :love:

[Queen of Poop]

Got 3 friends recruited to help me, figure it will take 2 hours to move the stuff from his storage unit to mine. Then FINALLY my stuff will be all mine again. I so look forward to a huge sense of relief Saturday afternoon. Thank you everyone for your support thru this.

[Catty1]

HUGS!!! :love::love::love:

[Queen of Poop]

ITS DONE!!!

Took me and 3 friends 45 minutes. My stuff is all tucked away now and only I have access to it!!!! :D

Now to settle the rest. All in good time.

[Karen]

Yay! Congratulations!

[phesina]

Congratulations, and WELL DONE!

What a load off your mind that must be. :);):D Onward and upward...

[Catty1]

YESSS! Great news...now it's all better and better!

[wombat2u2004]

Good girl ;)