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Alysser
08-25-2009, 12:07 PM
My sister is leaving for college on Sunday. She picked a State school to go to and it's only about and hour and a half away but I am the only kid left in the house. That's not to say my parents aren't cool or anything but I don't know, I just feel weird without my sister being right next door. I thought I'd be happy to feel like an only child, because I USED to like it, but now I don't think I will. She's coming home every weekend because she only has classes Monday thru Thursday and she is doing fright fest(at work) with me but something tells me it won't be the same as having her here like she always used to be.

My mom doesn't want her to leave either..:( This sorta sucks to be honest with you. Sorry for the mini-rant. I have to much pride to tell this all to her to my face.

k9krazee
08-25-2009, 12:29 PM
I think she'd appreciate it (or if not now, she will) if you gave her a big hug and told her how much you'll miss her. I'm on the other side of your situation. My sister (she's 16) has basically become the only child. My twin brother still lives at home, but he works and goes to school full time.

It'll take time to adjust to the new home environment, but once you get in a routine it'll be easier. I'm not sure how close you and your sister are, but this actually might be good for your relationship.

I never really had much of a relationship with my sister growing up. She's 5 years younger than me and we never had much in common. When I left for college 3 years ago I was SO happy to be leaving my parent's house. Now, I miss my family more than ever. I talk to my Mom or Dad every day on the phone, and often call to talk to my sister. We've had the best relationship that we've ever had. I do get all nostalgic from time to time, wishing things could be like they used to.

I know you'll miss her and it'll be hard to get used to. You're right, things won't ever be the same again. But it doesn't mean that you shouldn't make the most of it.

CountryWolf07
08-25-2009, 01:30 PM
You will get used to it. :) Don't worry. It's normal to feel that way. My two brothers felt that way when I left for Kent State my 3rd year of college. Now, I've graduated from Ohio State, and I am living back at home, and this time, it is my turn to be the only one living with my parents. My brothers will both be gone at Ohio State.

happylabs
08-25-2009, 02:16 PM
Oh my dear, you will LOVE it! I am in a similar situation. My daughter will go off to college on Sunday for her second year. My son is grown and out of the house and I am no longer married so I will be completely ALONE. Of course, I have my kitties and Casey.

Just remember your sister is only a phone call, email or IM away. Isn't it amazing how much you appreciate your family when you realize they will not be around.

You will do fine. :)

pomtzu
08-25-2009, 02:21 PM
You really should tell her how you feel. We only go around once. Don't wait till it's too late, and then regret the things you didn't say. :)

Just look at what you say in your siggy..............

lvpets2002
08-25-2009, 03:57 PM
:) I so aggree..
You really should tell her how you feel. We only go around once. Don't wait till it's too late, and then regret the things you didn't say. :)

Just look at what you say in your siggy..............

Daisy and Delilah
08-25-2009, 04:18 PM
Alyssa, I still have trouble saying things like that to my sister and brother. I know it's hard. I hope you can find the courage to say something to her and give her a hug if you want. It's hard for everybody when the regular home life starts to change. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

pomtzu
08-25-2009, 04:32 PM
Here's a suggestion that you might find helpful. If you find difficulty in actually "saying" what you feel, how about writing her a nice letter. It's probably something that she will always treasure.
Or even one step easier - there are so many greeting cards that have very lovely messages in them - that could be an option. You can usually find them in the "inspirational" section, and there are so many different ones with many different messages. I guess they make them for folks like you and a lot of others who just can't find the right words or feel awkward speaking them. :)

Daisy and Delilah
08-25-2009, 04:41 PM
Here's a suggestion that you might find helpful. If you find difficulty in actually "saying" what you feel, how about writing her a nice letter. It's probably something that she will always treasure.
Or even one step easier - there are so many greeting cards that have very lovely messages in them - that could be an option. You can usually find them in the "inspirational" section, and there are so many different ones with many different messages. I guess they make them for folks like you and a lot of others who just can't find the right words or feel awkward speaking them. :)

Ellie, sometimes I think you are the most clever person I know. Great suggestions!!:)

pomtzu
08-25-2009, 05:20 PM
Ellie, sometimes I think you are the most clever person I know. Great suggestions!!:)

Hmmm - I don't know about that - but thanks anyway! :D

I have used cards like that myself on a couple of occasions - especially if the person I was sending it to was out of state. There really are some very beautiful and meaningful messages in a lot of them. I guess others can think of what to say, when the right words are at a loss for us.

Karen
08-25-2009, 05:25 PM
Sweetie, I know change is hard, but I bet your relationship will change for the better after she moves out. Try not to IM constantly or anything, but keep in touch, and let her know you care even if she isn't responding because she's making huge adjustments to her new life!

caseysmom
08-25-2009, 06:56 PM
You know all the focus will be on you now:eek:

beeniesmom
08-26-2009, 03:15 AM
Aww, the others are right. You should let your sister know how you feel.
You'll still see her every weekend so it's just a matter of getting used to the new routine. You are so sweet.
I wish I could see my sister more often. She came to visit last week to see me and baby girl. The week flew by. I miss her so much. I wish we lived closer.

Cataholic
08-26-2009, 09:00 AM
You know all the focus will be on you now:eek:

OMG, this is exactly what my nephew is facing now that his sister has left for school. 4 eyes on the boy....