suggestions?

[toughCookie]

I've posted about my cat, Cookie, before, well I'm wondering if any of you have some ideas for me, last February she was put to sleep, and cremated, and I have her ashes, they gave them to me a few days after, in a little plastic container. is that morbid?
it has been 7 months now, I never intended to keep them this long, but I don't know what to do with them, I thought of burying them, but have to be careful nothing digs them up, though I doubt that would happen in my backyard. then I thought of scattering the ashes. I just don't know, and I feel kind of sick as I'm typing this, thinking about it all again...and the vet I brought Emma to the other day, before the eye specialist, was the one that put Cookie to sleep.

anyway, I just wondered if anyone else has had their cat cremated, or has any ideas of what to do with the ashes?
I guess I put if off, because that makes it so final and I still miss her so much, remembering the way she liked to play, she liked me to play with her, she would run and hide, and I would chase her sometimes, she loved that game, LOL so did I.

[Fuzzy317]

You could get a very nice urn to hold the ashes and display, so that you will see it and be reminded of good memories. I would place it somewhere safe, I would not want another pet or person to disturb it.

[C.C.'s Mom]

I like Fuzzy's idea a lot.

We had our cat Pishi cremated as well, and her ashes spread out over a beautiful green grass field in the spring. It was really very nice since the trees were in full bloom and there were butterflies and flowers.
She was cremated in December 2000, and we simply kept in in a container in our safe.
I choose to do it this way because I liked that place and I knew that she would have loved to walk around there too. And it also looked like the Rainbow Bridge.

[Former User]

Mary, it's up to you, what you feel is the best to do.
When my dog died, I burried him in our garden, in to his favourite spot, under few little trees, he liked it there, he could watch the world, but the world didn't see him.
I liked the idea of having a grave, so I was able to go and spend time there when I needed. I put some flowers there, and at first, I kept sitting there everyday, because I missed him so, and I felt lonely. I though that while I sit there, I'm with him, he's beside me and watching the birds with me. This went on for months, and when winter came, I put candles there and at x-mas, I decorated it a bit, it felt good because my dog loved x-mas anyway.
Sometimes now it's breaking my heart because I can't visit his grave anymore (because I live sooo far) but I know my parents take care of it.

Sorry to go on and babble so much, I guess I needed to vent :rolleyes:
I hope you find a solution that is the right one for you. I know you will!

[Fuzzy317]

Originally posted by C.C.'s Mom
We had our cat Pishi cremated as well, and her ashes spread out over a beautiful green grass field in the spring. It was really very nice since the trees were in full bloom and there were butterflies and flowers.
She was cremated in December 2000, and we simply kept in in a container in our safe.
I choose to do it this way because I liked that place and I knew that she would have loved to walk around there too. And it also looked like the Rainbow Bridge.

I am torn between my first idea, and this one. This is how I want to be handled when its my time. Not placed in a cemetary, but scattered in a place I would frequent, so the place and I become one. :) I know that sounds strange, but its coming from a strange person, as most anyone knows :D

[Tubby & Peanut's Mom]

Originally posted by Fuzzy317


I am torn between my first idea, and this one. This is how I want to be handled when its my time. Not placed in a cemetary, but scattered in a place I would frequent, so the place and I become one. :) I know that sounds strange, but its coming from a strange person, as most anyone knows :D

That doesn't sound strange to me, Fuzzy, because that's exactly what I intend for myself too. Haven't picked a spot yet, but I don't think it has to be just one spot, as long as I'm outdoors, and no where near a big city, that would be find with me.

Since Tubby is getting old (even though he's still quite healthy) I have had plenty of time to contemplate, and I'm going to have him cremated too, and I will spread his ashes in the woods behind my mom's house. He so loves it outside, and always liked that woods because there's so much to do there. Watch the birdies, the chimpunks, the snakes, the squirrels, chase the leaves, etc. It will be nice for me to picture him running freely through the woods - with no rope or leash to hold him back - and I will always be able to visit him there.

Peanut, on the other hand, is more timid and afraid, and I wouldn't want her in the woods where she would be afraid. I will probably scatter her outside because she does like it out there, but I will keep her much closer to the house, where she likes to stay because she knows it's safer there.

I will keep pictures of them in the house to remind me of them - not that I'll need the pictures at all.

This is such a personal thing, though Mary, that everyone has to ultimately make their own decisions on what they want, and what they think their pet would want. Cookie sounded like such a sweet little kitty, and I'm sure you'll do what's best. :)

[toughCookie]

thnks for the ideas, I like C.C moms ideas
I am not sure yet if I want to scatter them in the back yard, she loved going out there the few times she could manage to get out there
or to get a nice urn and a pic of her. the grave and marker idea is nice too. guess I still have to think about it.

fuzzy
I don't think that sounded strange, either.

Niina
It didnt sound to me that you were babbering.

[Cataholic]

Wow, what a decision to have to make. While I love the idea of spreading the ashes around in a beautiful and meaningful place, I might worry that I won't live in the same place forever.

When I read your post, I thought of a small cedar box I keep on my dresser. It is really a miniture hope chest- measuring maybe 8 inches long, four inches wide, and three inches tall. I keep my special little momentos in there..things that aren't quite jewelry, but are meaningful to me. I thought maybe a small wooden box or ceramic container (like the urn idea) that could be permanently sealed, and could sit someplace special in your home- or even, be stored someplace, if that felt right too.

Remember that Cookie is already in her special place, in your heart, and in heaven, looking down on you. Whatever you decide will be right for you. Thank you for caring sooo much about her. She must have been really well loved.

[RockyRoad]

Originally posted by Fuzzy317
You could get a very nice urn to hold the ashes and display, so that you will see it and be reminded of good memories. I would place it somewhere safe, I would not want another pet or person to disturb it.

I agree with Fuzzy as well. I'm sorry about Cookie (I haven't been here that long). I would want to keep it in maybe one of those cabinets that you keep antiqoues in-if you have one. I like cabinets, and as I recently deicded not to stuff my pets, I think that I will go with creamating (I am not the greatest speller). Anyway, I would put them in some kind of cabinet with a glass door, so you can see it. And if it's possible, get an urn with animal's name ingraved in it. That's what I plan to do.

[Felicia's Mom]

I had one of my cats cremated and his ashes are in a bottle in my cedar chest. I don't want to display the ashes, but I feel if I scatter them they are gone for good. I have been thinking about a pet cemetary for the cats I have now. That would depend on how much it costs.

[toughCookie]

more good ideas, thank you. a cabinet with glass door or a cedar box, both are good ideas. still have to think.

[Karen]

I think you should scatter them in a field or another outdoor spot she loved, just before a rainstorm, so they will become part of the soil. Or you could dig a hole, put the ashes in the bottom, then plant a shrub or flowering perennial there, which, when it blossom every year, you could think of it as her, saying hello.

[toughCookie]

I think you should scatter them in a field or another outdoor spot she loved, just before a rainstorm, so they will become part of the soil. Or you could dig a hole, put the ashes in the bottom, then plant a shrub or flowering perennial there, which, when it blossom every year, you could think of it as her, saying hello.

thanks Karen! 2 more good ideas. I like the idea of her ashes becoming part of the soil, but like the shrub idea too, something beautiful, would be her.Im more confused now! I would have to think of what to plant, what would be most like her...

[AmberLee]

Sassafras always wore a red harness or collar with a red tag. When he died, I buried him and later planted a red azalea in 'his' shade at the grave. It does make me feel closer to him when it blooms...

[lynnestankard]

Gosh these are some really great ideas.
When our furkids were cremated we took their ashes and scattered them out to sea - a lake would do as well. It just seemed so right they were 'returned' somehow. I really don't need an object to remember all my RB furkids - their all in my heart. This is just what we do.

Lynne

[Kirsten]

I like both fuzzy's and C.C.'s ideas. Placing an urn, maybe together with a photo somewhere safe is a good way to remember her, but also spreading the ashes out over some place Cookie would have liked is nice, both her spirit and body will be free then...

I agree with Casper&Kitty, you will feel in your heart what's the best decision for you and Cookie.

Kirsten

[toughCookie]

I have decided to keep Cookie's ashes in a container for now, and put them with a plaque, at least for now. I might sprinkle them later, but want to keep them for now. I am going to look for a nice container and plaque.

thanks for all the good ideas!