My Dad

[captain]

It is with a heavy heart that I let you know that my Dad passed away due to complications of terminal cancer this morning at 6:47am.

Many of you reading this note, will not have known he had cancer or was sick.

His initial cancer was in the Prostrate, and Radiation “cured” that one. However, about 6 months later, he had trouble swallowing, and a gastroscopy found cancer in his esophagus as it enters his stomach. That cancer was treated with radiation and chemo ……. he got very sick, but started to recover slowly. He started to go back downhill again around Christmas, and they did some more blood tests and a bone scan. The cancer markers had gone up, and they thought the cancer MAY have spread to his bones.

During January and February, he was in and out of hospital, on saline drips as he could not keep food or water down. On the 25th February, my Mum took him to Emergency in the morning, and they admitted him to Palliative Care, and “treated” his pain with morphine. They subsequently discovered that the cancer had spread to his lymph nodes and his liver, and they were pretty confident that it had finally spread to his bones. The morphine doses steadily increased, as the pain was getting worse and worse … for the last week, he was not able to talk to us, but he knew we were there.
This morning when the hospital called us and told us to come as soon as possible as he was deteriorating, we got there to find him awake, and waiting for us to say goodbye - with his eyes. He still could not talk to us ..... and we understood, and held him until he passed on.

In a good way, I am glad he has passed away, and no longer has pain. But in a selfish way, I am not, and wish he would have been here forever.

I love you and will miss you so much Dad.
YOUR daughter
Tumsch (his name for ME)

[Marigold2]

I am so sorry.

[sparks19]

I'm so sorry.

Cancer is always a tough thing for everyone to go through. At least you can take some solace in knowing he is pain free and whole again. I send prayers for you and your family in this difficult time.

[IRescue452]

I"m so sorry to hear. You'll be in my thoughts.

[joycenalex]

i am so sorry for your loss

[petslover]

I am so sorry to hear about your father. Just try to remember that he is in a better place.

-hugs-

[Logan]

Oh my dear, I am so sorry. :( Your dad sounds like he was a true fighter. And I know that having the support of all of you helped him so much.

Logan

[BCollie_Kelly]

I am so so sorry. :( You will be in my thoughts.

[chocolatepuppy]

I'm so sorry. :( I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

[Daisy and Delilah]

I'm so sorry to hear this. How difficult it must have been to post this news so soon. My heart breaks for you. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. :(
{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

[Karen]

Rest in peace, sir, your pain is over.

[elizabethann]

I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. My deepest sympathies.

[Edwina's Secretary]

Godspeed to your father, Captain. And my deepest and sincere condolences to you and your family.

[Twisterdog]

Oh, Captain, I'm so very sorry. :( Nothing else in the world will ever be like our daddies to us.

My dad is almost 82 and also has prostate cancer. I can't even think about losing him. I can't even imagine what you are going through.

Godspeed, Captain's Daddy. Smile down from heaven.

[KYS]

I am so sorry!
My thoughts/prayers are with you and yours.
(((HUGS)))

[dukedogsmom]

I am so very sorry. I am glad you were there to say goodbye, though. I know how hard it was. I know the days ahead will be tough but we will be there for you as much as we can. I hope you can find some peace from this, in time.

[caseysmom]

I am so sorry to hear about your Father, no matter how sick our loved ones are it is never easy losing them.

[CagneyDog]

I'm so sorry. {{{hugs}}}

[Toby's my baby]

I am so very very sorry! {{HUGS}}

[Glacier]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending many cyber-hugs to you.

[zippy-kat]

:( My sincerest sympathy for your loss. Sending you lots of prayers and {{hugs.}}

[cassiesmom]

Captain, I too will be thinking and praying for you .

[jazzcat]

I am so sorry.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Michelle, I'm so sorry for your loss.:( You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. Please take care. (((HUGS)))

[shais_mom]

thoughts-prayers-hugs on the way Michelle.

[Cincy'sMom]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

[wolf_Q]

I am very sorry for your loss. :( {{hugs}}

[Cinder & Smoke]

:(

Dear Michelle ~

I offer my deepest Sympathies to You and your Mum, and the Family.

I'll send my Mom over to the Bridge to meet him (she'll have Chawka-Chip Cookies!) ...
And does he like to Fish? If so, my Dad will show him the good spots off the Bridge.
Lady, Casey, Arrow, and Shadow will keep him busy with dog-walks.

You'll miss him terribly ... but know that he's now in a Better Place,
and rid of his earthly pains.

{{{Hugs}}}

/s/ :( Phred

[Pam]

I am so sorry. :( You have my most sincere sympathy. As someone who has watched two family members suffer and die from cancer I am familiar with the terrible pain that your dad endured. He sounds like he was a sweet man. I am glad you got to be with him at the end. He is pain free now. ((((hugs))))

[Pawsitive Thinking]

My sincere condolences on the loss of your Dad - as others have said, at least he is now free from his suffering and left this world surrounded by love.

Two years ago today I buried my Dad so I know all too well how you are feeling right now but it does get better - my Dad came to me in a few dreams shortly after he died and in each one he looked healthier and happier than I'd seen him in years. I am sure it will be the same with your Dad.

Blessings to you and your family at this sad time

[Alysser]

I am so sorry, Captain. :(

[Ginger's Mom]

I am so sorry, Michelle. More cyber-hugs are coming your way from NJ.

[Killearn Kitties]

My deepest sympathies to you and your family, Captain. We went through a similar situation with my mother in law and it is the most painful thing to watch. It's good that you were all able to be with him.

[cloverfdx]

Oh Michelle i am so sorry for you and your family's loss :(. You will all be in my thoughts {{Hugs}}.

[trayi52]

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your dad, Captain. Many prayers and good thoughts are coming your way.

Willie

[K & L]

I lost my dad to cancer a few years ago and can feel your pain. I'm so sorry. My regards to you and your family.

[ramanth]

I'm so sorry M. :( *HUGS*

I lost my step grandma to bone cancer. Such a horrible disease. :( :(

[jackmilliesmom]

Cancer is a cruel wicked disease that knows no boundaries and affects everybody involved the patient and family alike, and I am very sorry to hear about your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers and thoughts take care and lots of hugs and cuddles flying your way.


Jo

[Ally Cat's Mommy]

Michelle,

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that, in time, you can remember happier times with your dad, when he was pain free.

I am so glad you were with him at the end - it must have been so hard for you, but such a wonderful comfort for him.

(((HUGS)))

[anna_66]

Dearest Michelle,

I'm so sorry to be reading this news of your father.

It's nice to know that you were able to say goodbye to him.

Needless to say I'm not good with words, but they all come from the heart.

Many (((HUGS))) to you and your family

Love Anna & Mark

[king2005]

I'm so sorry about your loss :(
I've never lost a parent, but I have seen the pain others have gone through. Just remember that his body may be gone, but he will always live in your heart & memories *HUGS*

[Jadapit]

I'm so sorry! You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. (((Hugs)))

[4 Dog Mother]

Michelle, I was so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. Losing a family member is always tough. It is good that you got to spend time with him before he died. I am sorry he had to go through such pain though. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Diana

[Cataholic]

Michelle, please accept my deepest condolences for the loss of your father. I cannot imagine the pain, and will be holding you close in my thoughts.

Johanna

[moosmom]

Michelle,

I am so very sorry to hear about your father. Please accept my sincere condolences.

[M&M's Mommy]

My deepest condolences to you & your family.

May he be received into the eternal banquet in heaven.

[Lobodeb]

I am so sorry. :(

Your post brought tears to my eyes. As a slight silver lining to this terrible cloud is that you got to say good-bye to him.

Hugs to you and your family. You are all in my prayers.

[Lilith Cherry]

I am so sorry for your loss and send my condolences to you and all your family.

[Husky_mom]

I hadn´t posted before as I didn´t know what to say in such a hard time...... but please know that my deepest condolences are with you and your family..... R.I.P.

[Donnaj4962]

I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of your Father. I can only imagine what you and your family must be going through at this time.

Cherish your memories, and know that he will always be looking down upon you and guiding you.

[caseysmom]

Hi Captain, I saw that you were logged on at this late hour and just wanted to give you a cyber hug, hope your feeling okay.

[kallisto4529]

I am so very sorry for the loss of your dad!!!! You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers, and I will pray all of you find the comfort you deserve in knowing he is at peace now and not in any pain.

[kimlovescats]

Reading your post has brought me to tears. I am so terribly sorry that your Dad had to deal with this vicious disease. I can't even begin to tell you how to cope, as I haven't had to deal with losing a parent yet, but I will pray that you will find some comfort in remembering the good times. I am so glad to hear that he waited to say his "goodbyes" to his dear family.

HUGS,
Kim

[AdoreMyDogs]

I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. I know words can't heal pain, but know that my and other caring pet talkers' prayers are with you in your time of need.

((((hugs))))

[gini]

Michelle, I am so sorry to read of your father's passing. I just now saw this thread, so forgive me for not posting sooner.

Yes, we know he is resting in peace and painfree - but it is so difficult for the loved ones he left behind.

Allow me to extend my heartfelt condolences to you along with a cyber hug.

[Kfamr]

I'm not sure how I missed this but I am just now seeing it. I am so sorry Michelle. I cannot even imagine the hurt you're going through.

Rest easy, Michelle's Daddy.

{{{{HUGS}}}
Kay

[captain]

Thank you all so very much for your wishes and thoughts and prayers. I feel like I am operating in a time warp most of the time, and am so lucky I have such a wonderful husband who is supporting me through this, along with all my friends here on PT.

Thanks so much for your kindness.
Michelle

[CountryWolf07]

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your dad...

[beeniesmom]

I am so sorry.
Heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

[AmberLee]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I will hold you and your family in my prayers.
:(

[Miss Z]

I'm really sorry to hear that you lost your dad. My thoughts are with you and your family and I hope that the pain of losing him heals soon. :(

[JenBKR]

I'm just now seeing this. I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. ((((hugs))))

[Randi]

My thoughts are with you in this sad time. Losing a mother/father is one of the hardest things we have to go through.

I hope it will be a comfort to you and your family that your father is no longer in pain. Try to remember the good times! In my experience, it helps to talk about it - to someone who knew him.

((((hugs))))

[carole]

Oh captain i read your post, it made me so sad, my sincere condolences to you and your family at this very difficult and sad time in your life, i am glad your dad is not suffering anymore too,and understand how hard this must have been for you, rest in peace captain's dad, HUGS to you.

[Pembroke_Corgi]

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. :( My thoughts are with you.

[ChrisH]

Michelle, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. :( You and your family are in my prayers. {{hugs}}