catnapper
03-07-2007, 10:43 PM
I know, this is one thing people have spent a millenia on ;)
But..... can someone PLEASE shed some light on this? Please?
Long story made incredibly short: we don't like Cam's father. Well, nobody except Cam's mom :p He hasn't been to our house since New Year's Eve when a huge fight erupted between Ashley and him (hmmm... he needs a name... how about CF for Cam's Father?) So, CF and Ash had a fight on New Years' Eve, hubby stepped in and told CF that he is to NEVER, EVER talk to Ashley like that EVER again. CF was so manipulative, mean, "scary angry" to Ash and hubby couldn't stay out of it any longer.
So what did we get for hubby stepping in and protecting Ashley? We've not seen hide nor hair of him. Ash simply goes over to his house to see him a few times a week. She fights tooth and nail whenever we make a negative comment. So, we just no longer make ANY comments about him. Nothing good, nothing bad. We just act like he's a non-entity. Might not be a functional arrangement but it keeps fights to a minimum :o
Sooooo.... we've been living for 3 months in this sort of unreal state. Ash had some friends over tonight from school. Both kids (young adults ;)) know CF and spent a couple hours bashing him and making fun of him. They told Ash that she could do so much better. They were seriously trashing CF and Ash was laughing along with them and agreeing to everything they said!
Now.... this is where I need some help. Do you think she really feels they are right? Its a bit different hearing it from your peers who were "friends" with him than it is hearing it from your parents who were predisposed to disliking CF from the start?
Did you all follow that? I can't give too many details or I'd have a book right here. This is long enough :p
But..... can someone PLEASE shed some light on this? Please?
Long story made incredibly short: we don't like Cam's father. Well, nobody except Cam's mom :p He hasn't been to our house since New Year's Eve when a huge fight erupted between Ashley and him (hmmm... he needs a name... how about CF for Cam's Father?) So, CF and Ash had a fight on New Years' Eve, hubby stepped in and told CF that he is to NEVER, EVER talk to Ashley like that EVER again. CF was so manipulative, mean, "scary angry" to Ash and hubby couldn't stay out of it any longer.
So what did we get for hubby stepping in and protecting Ashley? We've not seen hide nor hair of him. Ash simply goes over to his house to see him a few times a week. She fights tooth and nail whenever we make a negative comment. So, we just no longer make ANY comments about him. Nothing good, nothing bad. We just act like he's a non-entity. Might not be a functional arrangement but it keeps fights to a minimum :o
Sooooo.... we've been living for 3 months in this sort of unreal state. Ash had some friends over tonight from school. Both kids (young adults ;)) know CF and spent a couple hours bashing him and making fun of him. They told Ash that she could do so much better. They were seriously trashing CF and Ash was laughing along with them and agreeing to everything they said!
Now.... this is where I need some help. Do you think she really feels they are right? Its a bit different hearing it from your peers who were "friends" with him than it is hearing it from your parents who were predisposed to disliking CF from the start?
Did you all follow that? I can't give too many details or I'd have a book right here. This is long enough :p