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09-05-2006, 08:48 PM
Okay, this might turn out to be a rather long post, but I am looking for an outsiders point of view.
"Mike" is my dad, not blood related but the only one I've ever known since I was about 5. However, him and my mom are divorced now too, he lives in an apartment about 20min from me. He went through a bout of extreme alcoholism about 6 months ago-last year, for the longest time, he did not have a job, lived at my moms house even though they were divorced, was drunk pretty much whenever he was awake, or he was passed out somewhere (found him asleep out side in a thunderstorm, on the kitchen floor, etc) and I have two young siblings (ages 6 and 9) who witnessed all this daily. He then found a job delivering pizza at Dominos since about January, he moved out of moms, and seemed to get somewhat better, although definately not completely better. He also made some choices while he was living at moms, that I lost some of my respect for him, that I would rather not get into.
So when I found that I needed to quit one of my jobs (an abusive dog kennel) immediately, he got me into Domino's and I was delivering pizza with him, that was back in april/may. Everything was fine, I loved the people I worked with, etc, loved the job. I am now a vet tech, but I've stayed with dominos part time. About a month and a half ago, Mike got promoted to assistant manager, admist a little disagreement with the rest of the staff. Since then, I've seen problem after problem. It's almost like he went on a power trip-was talking about firing this person, that person, etc. He had huge problems with the manager in training, Will, which he did not have any problems with before he became asst. manager. Will came up to me one day to ask me what my dad had against him. I told him I didn't really know, I thought that they were at least somwhat friends beforehand. Will said some about a power trip, and I agreed with him. The next day, my dad fired Will. He also made a pass at a friend of mine, too (He is 37, she is 20) and grabbed her face and kissed her, and asked her to come back to his place with him after she pushed him off. She is homosexual...I know she wasn't lying about it. Since she refused him, he has been a completely -insert curse- to her, and the 3 guys that we both hang out with. And ever since me, her, and the three guys that work there have been hanging out outside of work, he hasn't talked to me at all, it's been about 3 weeks. He won't really respond to questions, or won't acknoweldge me when I tell him something, and didn't even call me on my birthday. He came to work drunk a couple of times too. I knew something was wrong...but figured it would come up eventually, or blow over. And whenever he knows I'm about to hang out with these people, he'll keep me working as long as he can, and sometimes he keeps me until 1 or 2 in the morning, doing his stuff!
Last night when I was checking out, he told me he needed to talk to me. He accused me of saying things to other people about him, that he told me in confidence. Not once did I say anything to anyone. He said that I told Will that he didn't want Will around anymore. I told him what I typed earlier, that will had come to me, and that I didn't say much. He also said that "what I've been doing while out with the people from work reflects badly on him". I haven't done anything that would reflect badly upon anybody! These are probably the most respectful people I've hung out with in a while, compared to some other people I know. He went on and on about it, and I told him and denied the stuff he was talking about. I asked him to tell me specifically what I've done, or what I've said, and he wouldn't tell me.
So today I get a phone call at about 10am...he told me he was letting me go!! That I shouldn't work there with him, and not to come to work tonight. I was so shocked and surprised...hung up on him. NOW I have something to say about him. I called my mom, and she got extremely angry. It is pretty much unlawful firing, so we called corporate and such, and I am thinking of getting a lawyer. Then I called the general manager, chris, (my dads boss) to get reports of the files of firing and any disciplinary reports and such. I am going in at 10 tonight to discuss this with him-he had no idea that my dad was going to fire me. So hopefully that will get sorted out, and if he sticks with my dads decision I'm going to try to sue them, at least for lost wages and stuff. But unfortunately I no longer have any type of respect for my dad, and it has ruined my relationship. I still want to work at the store, but I'm not sure if I really should. I rely on the extra money, but at the same time, my dad is there. It is a really horrible situation, and I am pretty upset. I have to leave to go talk to Chris now, but any advice is appreciated.
Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. :(
"Mike" is my dad, not blood related but the only one I've ever known since I was about 5. However, him and my mom are divorced now too, he lives in an apartment about 20min from me. He went through a bout of extreme alcoholism about 6 months ago-last year, for the longest time, he did not have a job, lived at my moms house even though they were divorced, was drunk pretty much whenever he was awake, or he was passed out somewhere (found him asleep out side in a thunderstorm, on the kitchen floor, etc) and I have two young siblings (ages 6 and 9) who witnessed all this daily. He then found a job delivering pizza at Dominos since about January, he moved out of moms, and seemed to get somewhat better, although definately not completely better. He also made some choices while he was living at moms, that I lost some of my respect for him, that I would rather not get into.
So when I found that I needed to quit one of my jobs (an abusive dog kennel) immediately, he got me into Domino's and I was delivering pizza with him, that was back in april/may. Everything was fine, I loved the people I worked with, etc, loved the job. I am now a vet tech, but I've stayed with dominos part time. About a month and a half ago, Mike got promoted to assistant manager, admist a little disagreement with the rest of the staff. Since then, I've seen problem after problem. It's almost like he went on a power trip-was talking about firing this person, that person, etc. He had huge problems with the manager in training, Will, which he did not have any problems with before he became asst. manager. Will came up to me one day to ask me what my dad had against him. I told him I didn't really know, I thought that they were at least somwhat friends beforehand. Will said some about a power trip, and I agreed with him. The next day, my dad fired Will. He also made a pass at a friend of mine, too (He is 37, she is 20) and grabbed her face and kissed her, and asked her to come back to his place with him after she pushed him off. She is homosexual...I know she wasn't lying about it. Since she refused him, he has been a completely -insert curse- to her, and the 3 guys that we both hang out with. And ever since me, her, and the three guys that work there have been hanging out outside of work, he hasn't talked to me at all, it's been about 3 weeks. He won't really respond to questions, or won't acknoweldge me when I tell him something, and didn't even call me on my birthday. He came to work drunk a couple of times too. I knew something was wrong...but figured it would come up eventually, or blow over. And whenever he knows I'm about to hang out with these people, he'll keep me working as long as he can, and sometimes he keeps me until 1 or 2 in the morning, doing his stuff!
Last night when I was checking out, he told me he needed to talk to me. He accused me of saying things to other people about him, that he told me in confidence. Not once did I say anything to anyone. He said that I told Will that he didn't want Will around anymore. I told him what I typed earlier, that will had come to me, and that I didn't say much. He also said that "what I've been doing while out with the people from work reflects badly on him". I haven't done anything that would reflect badly upon anybody! These are probably the most respectful people I've hung out with in a while, compared to some other people I know. He went on and on about it, and I told him and denied the stuff he was talking about. I asked him to tell me specifically what I've done, or what I've said, and he wouldn't tell me.
So today I get a phone call at about 10am...he told me he was letting me go!! That I shouldn't work there with him, and not to come to work tonight. I was so shocked and surprised...hung up on him. NOW I have something to say about him. I called my mom, and she got extremely angry. It is pretty much unlawful firing, so we called corporate and such, and I am thinking of getting a lawyer. Then I called the general manager, chris, (my dads boss) to get reports of the files of firing and any disciplinary reports and such. I am going in at 10 tonight to discuss this with him-he had no idea that my dad was going to fire me. So hopefully that will get sorted out, and if he sticks with my dads decision I'm going to try to sue them, at least for lost wages and stuff. But unfortunately I no longer have any type of respect for my dad, and it has ruined my relationship. I still want to work at the store, but I'm not sure if I really should. I rely on the extra money, but at the same time, my dad is there. It is a really horrible situation, and I am pretty upset. I have to leave to go talk to Chris now, but any advice is appreciated.
Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. :(