lv4dogs
05-22-2006, 01:47 PM
I am so sick of Joe's cats, or at least I am almost sure that almost every time something happens it is one of his cats.
I am literally so fed up,I honestly don't know what to do.
For the record my cats have been socialized, just like dogs. I bring them for car rides, to visit with friends/family, bring them to work, go for walks, re-arrange furniture, have had many people & pets move in & out, buy new items, have had many foster/rescue kittens,dogs, ferrets, hamsters, rats, etc... etc... and NEVER EVER have any of my cats EVER pissed/pooped/scratched/harmed anything or anyone or in any place that they shouldn't have.
And my cats are hardly ever inside anymore since his 2 cats moved in.
Yet, since his 2 cats have moved in I have or am dealing with:
-water being splashed everywhere
-carpet being scratched
-piss in a couple places it should not be
-cat shit in the dog food bin, of course I just emptied a brand new 40lb bag into the bin
-George had 3 *tiny* puncture wounds when I examined him further, too small to be a dog nail or tooth and both of my cats were outside that night (I know I never mentioned that before)
-cuts/scratches/bites on me because his cats don't even really like to be picked up at all, but they jump on things & me & I need to get them off somehow
-his cats are still pretty hissy/swatty at my cats and dogs, so much that sometimes my animals won't even enter a room or the like
-hamster cages being messed with
AFTER Joe moved in he told me that his cats will potty outside of the litter box sometimes.
EDITED TO ADD: I guess those times he said he cleaned up messed outside of the litterbox it was only smeared poop.
I also found a few throw rugs of Joes all scratched up.
And Joe's responses every time I try to talk to him, NONE! Ok hardly none, he did say a few things about resolving the water issue but not with any other issue. NOTHING, he just sits there.
Joe has NEVER fed the cats since he moved in. It is ALWAYS me.
Joe has not cleaned his cats litterbox without me having to ask him to.
Joes has not once vacuumed or swept the tons of grey fur balls I now have but have never had before his cats moved in.
Joe told me the other night that he wouldn't spend $500 on his cats if they needed health care. (the issue came up as we watching a show about blocked cats)
Yet he says he absolutely loves these cats, he doesn't want them to go outside or anything. He is too scared he would loose one.
My good friend told me out of the blue the other day that my house smells like piss/shit and out of the 2 years she has known me she says my house has NEVER even remotely smelled like that. (Joe says it is the ferrets that smell, my friends, family & I beg to differ, as stated above my house has never smelled that bad, ever.
I have told Joe about most of the problems, all except a couple because stupid me didn't want to be too mean. Now if I bring up the 3 or so issues that happened a week or two ago he's going to think that I have some type of vendeta against his cats or something. I don't, or I should say I didn't, now I do, now I can not stand them.
Last night was the crap in the dog food bin which just topped the cake. I am so angry that it isn't even funny & I can't calm down no matter how hard or little I try.
I have talked with Joe about some of the events, last night I blew up. I was very angry.
Would it be wrong of me to tell him that he has ONE more chance to care for his cats. That HE NEEDS to feed, care, clean up after them. If not than they are gone, if he chooses to go with them then so be it.
I mean now that we live together our stuff is exactly that, OUR stuff, but technically it is still MY house & MY things that are being damaged. So do I have a right to bitch or not?
Would it also be wrong of me to make him purchase a new bag of dog food? I am not 100% sure it was his cats but look at the history, I would have to guess that it is a 99.99999% chance that it is his cats that are causing all these problems.
I swear to god I am about to have a mental breakdown. The cats have been here for almost 2 months now & ever since they moved in it's one problem right after another.
I am literally so fed up,I honestly don't know what to do.
For the record my cats have been socialized, just like dogs. I bring them for car rides, to visit with friends/family, bring them to work, go for walks, re-arrange furniture, have had many people & pets move in & out, buy new items, have had many foster/rescue kittens,dogs, ferrets, hamsters, rats, etc... etc... and NEVER EVER have any of my cats EVER pissed/pooped/scratched/harmed anything or anyone or in any place that they shouldn't have.
And my cats are hardly ever inside anymore since his 2 cats moved in.
Yet, since his 2 cats have moved in I have or am dealing with:
-water being splashed everywhere
-carpet being scratched
-piss in a couple places it should not be
-cat shit in the dog food bin, of course I just emptied a brand new 40lb bag into the bin
-George had 3 *tiny* puncture wounds when I examined him further, too small to be a dog nail or tooth and both of my cats were outside that night (I know I never mentioned that before)
-cuts/scratches/bites on me because his cats don't even really like to be picked up at all, but they jump on things & me & I need to get them off somehow
-his cats are still pretty hissy/swatty at my cats and dogs, so much that sometimes my animals won't even enter a room or the like
-hamster cages being messed with
AFTER Joe moved in he told me that his cats will potty outside of the litter box sometimes.
EDITED TO ADD: I guess those times he said he cleaned up messed outside of the litterbox it was only smeared poop.
I also found a few throw rugs of Joes all scratched up.
And Joe's responses every time I try to talk to him, NONE! Ok hardly none, he did say a few things about resolving the water issue but not with any other issue. NOTHING, he just sits there.
Joe has NEVER fed the cats since he moved in. It is ALWAYS me.
Joe has not cleaned his cats litterbox without me having to ask him to.
Joes has not once vacuumed or swept the tons of grey fur balls I now have but have never had before his cats moved in.
Joe told me the other night that he wouldn't spend $500 on his cats if they needed health care. (the issue came up as we watching a show about blocked cats)
Yet he says he absolutely loves these cats, he doesn't want them to go outside or anything. He is too scared he would loose one.
My good friend told me out of the blue the other day that my house smells like piss/shit and out of the 2 years she has known me she says my house has NEVER even remotely smelled like that. (Joe says it is the ferrets that smell, my friends, family & I beg to differ, as stated above my house has never smelled that bad, ever.
I have told Joe about most of the problems, all except a couple because stupid me didn't want to be too mean. Now if I bring up the 3 or so issues that happened a week or two ago he's going to think that I have some type of vendeta against his cats or something. I don't, or I should say I didn't, now I do, now I can not stand them.
Last night was the crap in the dog food bin which just topped the cake. I am so angry that it isn't even funny & I can't calm down no matter how hard or little I try.
I have talked with Joe about some of the events, last night I blew up. I was very angry.
Would it be wrong of me to tell him that he has ONE more chance to care for his cats. That HE NEEDS to feed, care, clean up after them. If not than they are gone, if he chooses to go with them then so be it.
I mean now that we live together our stuff is exactly that, OUR stuff, but technically it is still MY house & MY things that are being damaged. So do I have a right to bitch or not?
Would it also be wrong of me to make him purchase a new bag of dog food? I am not 100% sure it was his cats but look at the history, I would have to guess that it is a 99.99999% chance that it is his cats that are causing all these problems.
I swear to god I am about to have a mental breakdown. The cats have been here for almost 2 months now & ever since they moved in it's one problem right after another.